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*Dazzling
writes:He liked me for a year and I started to like him back (this was last year). He showed it by staring at me in class often and trying to talk to me, but I was just so shy and never showed much interest back. Time passed and my feelings grew; I'd never felt this strongly before. I knew I should've given him clues back, but for some reason I could never bring myself to.At the start of this year, he started ignoring me. To sum it up, it hurt, a LOT. Now it's June and I still get upset just thinking about it. I can't stop listening to sad songs that remind me as well. I think about him all the time, and not a day goes by that I don't regret not letting him know how I felt.. I wish I could go back in time.I'd really like some advice on what to do. It's like my head knows I should just leave it all behind and move on, but my heart .. won't let me. How can I move on when I see him and it all comes rushing back?? I can't forget.I've never been this upset about anyone before. It's even changed my outlook on love - I never want to feel like this again. It's unbearable.We never had a proper conversation, so it's not like I could tell him now.Please help, I'm so LOST. Any help, just ANYTHING would be great. :(
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reader, Myrrh  +, writes (12 June 2010):
 Hi. As you can see. If you are too shy you will lose lots of opportunities. Having said that he could have done more than just stare! Some would have found that quite intimidating. Im guessing he must be quite shy too. Do you have a friend that would talk to him for you? If ever i said i liked a boy at school, one of my friends would go and tell him for me if i wanted her to. It is a great way to break the ice if you feel a bit shy. If that would to just tooo embarrassing then try another approach. Just look his way when you pass and smile. It will be ok. Its a nice way to let someone know you like them without having to say anything. And its certainly better than staring like he did. When you first smile he might be a little surprised and not think to smile back, so dont be shocked if he doesnt. Just keep smiling everytime you see him. Im sure after a few days of doing that he will sum up the courage to start talking to you. Good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2010): If he liked you for so long the feelings wouldn't have vanished so fast. He obviously still feels the same as he did. There is always a first time for love and sometimes it happens to pop up in the most peculiar places. Maybe him ignoring you is a rebound. Think of it like this: He liked you and showed it so much. You like him but you don't show it at all. He didn't/doesn't realise you felt the same and because you didn't show it he hides it and totally blanks you out! Just tell him how you felt/feel and I can give you a 70%chance he will know how you feel and it will fall into place :) xx
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (12 June 2010):
 Umm, why can't you tell him now?? Is he dead? Or married? Or does he have South Antarctic Herpes??
What the hell are you WAITING for??? Life is about RISKS! You have been loving him from afar because it's SAFE. No wonder you're a basketcase! GO TELL HIM! Who cares how much time has passed. You'll feel so relieved with yourself, even if he says no to you!
GO GET HIM! TELL HIM!!!!!!!!!! SCREW SHYNESS! You take what you want! Hell, go walk up to him and kiss his brains out!!! (Well, don't go that far, but go get what you want!) Be absolutely direct with him. Tell him you were shy last year, and tell him you can't let another minute go by without telling him how you feel about him.
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