A
female
age
41-50,
*onmrs
writes:my live in bf seems to be depressed and upset about work and homesick from Ga. We have been having problems in our relationship.. financial, and his unwillingness to propose though he let me know he bought a ring over 4 months ago. He's moody and really sad all the time.. He works at night so he sleeps alot.. we only communicate over nite w/ messenger but thats getting old.. intimacy seems to be a chore w/ me but ok solo.. I dunno what to do.. I am trying to lessen his load and be supportive but he just seems miserable.. I'm afraid I'm losing him. We have children and I want to work it out. When I try to talk he says he doesn't know whats wrong.. he's just frustrated.. He says he wants to work it out but I can tell he is ready to give up. What do I do?
View related questions:
depressed Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, Myrrh  +, writes (12 June 2010):
 Hi. Relieve some of the pressure on him by putting marriage to one side for the moment. Also if hes depressed, sex wont be available for a while but try not to take it personally. He needs to go see a doctor because he does sound very depressed. He might need treatment and certainly needs to be signed off sick from work for a wee while. Night work can have a terribble affect on some. And it can even lead to depression in its own right if chronic fatigue sets in. So aim to get him off work for a few weeks even if it means a temporary dip in income. His health is far more important. You say he just works and sleeps but the sleep hes having is the wrong type. He needs proper sleep at night for a while. Once hes had a few weeks of that and hes re entered the living world you should notice an improvement. But because hes not functioning properly right now, you may have to INSIST he goes to the doctor and has time off work. He will thank you for it when hes feeling better though. All the best.
|
