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writes:I would like to know what people think about this if possible. If someone wants to control and own you - what do you do?? and they say things like - you do what I say or am gone...which I think is a form of emotional manipulation.. Anyway do you put up with it?? cos you like him or do you put them in their place straight away? My last bf said that if you want a successful relationship with a man you should let the man tell you what to do. I strongly disagreed and stood up to him and said no way mister..anyway he walked off in a huff and pretty much broke it off with me cos I refused to do what he said. I told him he was crossing my boundaries and that I am not a child who you put in place... I am happy I stood my ground. Do women really let the guy do this once he gets comfortable with you??? why be passive? what do men out there think of men who say to their gf you do what I say and you let me 'be the man' or I walk??? I told him it was some sort of blackmail and that it would get him nowhere with me as I see it as a form of emotional bullying...it was a dealbreaker for me. How many of you out there agree that what I did was the right thing?? forgive my curiousity and thank you.. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYeah you see that thought had actually crossed my mind...funny you say it..but he kinda spoiled it as I perceived that as overbearing and domineering..
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThat's exactly how I felt...you could not have put it better! Thank you..x
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reader, Ravenxx91  +, writes (28 October 2009):
 I'd tell him where he could shove it and next time he says "you do what I say or am gone" I'd wave at him and say "Missing you already...NOT".Anyway you derseve someone better x
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you - what a nice response...much appreciated!!!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (27 October 2009):
It's fantastic that you stood up for yourself! Thank God you stood up to that dinosaur of a man! No you certainly shouldn't do what a man tells you to. I'm not saying that you need to disagree with everything, but I am saying that you are your own person and you're not just some slave. Relationships are built upon trust, understanding and the ability to see something from your partner's view. Well done for not taking his seriously appalling attitude. I'm a guy, and can honestly say that I'd never want my girlfriend to do everything I said, and agree with everything I wanted. Can you even imagine how boring that would be? It would be like living with a robot. Well done. You will find a guy who will actually respect you for who you are, and share the same values as you. Don't settle for less. Yes I agree with you. All the best. :)
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