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writes:Say a girl is engaged, still in college, while her fiancee is 300 miles away. She dates another boy on pretty much a regular bases. She makes out with the other boy and even does it while spending the night in his bed wih him, no sex, but wearing only her panties, kissing and fondling. Is this cheating? What kind of girl is she considered?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2008): Yessssssssss That is 100% cheating
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reader, x-kitycatlok-x  +, writes (1 April 2008):
 She's cheating. No doubt about it. Seeing someone else is considered cheating. Making out with someone else is considered cheating. And she's ENGAGED? That's wrong on so many levels. Ditch the girl. She's not worth it. She's considered a cheater. No arguments there.
Wish you the best.
xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2008): It's cheating by any and everyone's standards!Cut her loose and move on to better days.BadVoiceWDC
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2008): No matter how you put it, that's cheating. Long distance relationships are hard though, and this is the problem with them. I'm not saying this always happens, but often it's a temptation some people can't resist.. But to your second question, calling someone a whore or a slut won't get you anywhere honey.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2008): She's cheating.
Not only shouldn't she be doing what she's doing right now, but she's setting herself up a situation where she's very likely to eventually cheat with full-blown sex.
Eventually you will hear, "We didn't MEAN to have sex, but we got so drunk and we're so comfortable together . . . I'm sorry. It just happened."
Or at least that's what you will hear if she actually tells you she cheated and doesn't just keep it a secret.
If she hasn't done it already.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (1 April 2008):
 I wouldnt buy her excuses mate. It's cheating no matter how she puts it.
Time to throw away the engagement ring!
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reader, asian tealeaf  +, writes (1 April 2008):
 this is fullblown cheating, no matter how u cut it. here are the definitions of cheating for u. cybersex is cheating, because its still personal live interaction with another human being , kissing, fondling, even with clothes on, any type of sexual play one would have with the opposite sex is cheating if its not ur partner. love letters, are cheating because it is announcing ur feelings for another person ur not with while being with another person, phone sex is cheating, a lot of flirtatious act can also be considered cheating because its attracting the opposite sex to u whilst u are involved with another. lets not fool ourselves here. human flirting acts are our way of courtship with the opposite sex, as animals have their mating rituals so do we. dancing dirty and having fullblown body contact is also cheating if its not with ur partner, ur sexually stimulating another person i.e grinding ur ass into the croth of a male at a bar.. what guy enjoys to see his gf wife or fiancee doing this to another or vs? and if its done when u know ur partners out of town or working etc, this is definitley cheating, anything that is sneaky and done in these fashions are cheating. even innocent flirting can be borderline cheating. again, lets not kid ourselves. women and men are magnets. and we have all seen innocent little conversations, perhaps the holding of another persons hand a little longer than usual or normal, putting ur arm around another to comfort them, this might not be cheating non its own, but feelings can develop and as we know, they have and do. so one should avoid at all costs any actions that could be misconstrued by either ur partner or the person that ur with whos not ur partner . its better to avoid these situations thus avoiding and preventing temptation... however it does not mean one should be frigid and cold and emotionless to the opposit sex. but, in my opinion, if im alone without my partner and lets say im at the bar, i never dance with any guys, even if theres no direct body contact. like, if a friend of his was there and saw this, it could be misconstrued and why would i put myself in this situation?as it is, there was a time where my bf was away for one week and he said if i wanted to go clubbing he didnot care. so i went and met an old guy fried, no previous sexual relationship or feeelings of love, we were honest good friends, and we were both seen at the bar sitting at a sofa and talking for hrs. one of my bfs freiends happened to be there saw this and called him and said to him i was with another guy, but he also said, i was not appearing to be flirting, or sitting exceptionally close, holding hands etc, it appeared to be merely conversational. he was an honest friend of my bf and later my bf asked me what was this. i told him how i knew this guy, that wed never banged or had any mutual feeling of love etc towards eachother. but my bf only believd me because he knows my character already, knows im hardcore with him, that fidelity to me is what it is to him. our no. 1 priority. and since i was never a liar to begin with, and wed never evr been away from eachother etc, and of course, wed been together for a while and he knew what kind of girl i was, he knew my words were as good as it could possibly ever be. trust is important in a relationship. but it sounds like u need to step forth and tell this poor fiancee of this girl, whats been happening.u asked what kind of girl she is? a dishonest slut whos a dumbbitch. girls like her ruin good guys like him, and im only presuming hes an honest good faithful man. ive met plenty of "nice guys" whove been had with by girls who broke their hearts and trampled on it like they were nothing. girls want good nice guys then trest them like shit, and then want an asshole who beats the shit outta them. and they announce their undying love for these losers. hmmmm... maybe this guy will dump her and she will meet karma head on, or a fate that bodes no good for her. but then she will realize her loss. but its to her fiancees gain who will leave her, and find a truly sweet loyal girl who will make him hold his head high in pride, not low because she cuckolded him! hope i spelled it out clear enough for u dear sir. guy code: bros before hoes!dont hesitate to tell this poor man whats been going on. mind u their might be another untold side to this story... did he cheat on her ever? perhaps shes just trying to get one up on him? one never knows. u might know better... good luck though
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reader, GeorgiaGirl84 +, writes (1 April 2008):
 She's cheating! Besides, how would she feel if her fiance was doing the same thing she was? She needs to get everything out of her system before settling down. I feel bad for her man. He deserves more.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2008): Yes, it is cheating. Moments and actions as these are for two people to sharewith each other, not with others. The girl has some understanding and maturing before she would make a good long term partner. Otherwise, she is unreliable, because I feel she will show looseness in other areas of the relationship which are critical to a strong and lasting bond.
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