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writes:While the end result that's hoped for by both partners while engaging in sex is an orgasm, I can't help but notice how many women on here write about things like "I can't have an orgasm, my bf/husband can't give me orgasms, I rarely get them, I've been faking" etc....which got me thinking, what do women get out of sex if they don't orgasm regularly? Is it just something you do to 'service' your man, or is there something else to it? Physical? Mental? Emotional?
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (21 March 2011):
 Well I get my orgasms very easily, but the fact is even when I'm not having intercourse (like a BJ or a handjob), the act is still very pleasurable - the touch, the contact, the feeling of having given such pleasure to my partner...and of course, it's quite well documented on here that I love cum, so...I guess it's always good, yes?
I get the feeling you're over-thinking this. If women didn't get anything out of sex, they wouldn't do it, would they?
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reader, muso888  +, writes (20 March 2011):
Don't you enjoy the feeling of sex before you orgasm? Or is it just boring until the point of 'boom'? I doubt it, I don't ever remember a man I've slept with looking bored until he came... in a similar light its pleasurable to have sex. Yes some women who orgasm easily would probably be bored if they don't, but for the rest of us if you're using your 'thing' right, it'll be fun for the ride, even if the destination isn't quite where we hoped it would be... besides, there's always next time...
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reader, person12345 +, writes (20 March 2011):
 Well the emotional connection can be nice, but I can't imagine any woman would want to continue having sex for long if she wasn't having regular orgasms. I read a study that unsurprisingly found that women's sex drives were directly proportional to how frequently she orgasms during sex. I feel like a lot of the reason a woman would continue having sex if she wasn't having orgasms at least most of the time would be because it's expected of her. Orgasms are just as important for women as they are for men. It's a myth that women just don't care that much about orgasms and find them optional for sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2011): I can't remember where I heard this saying...I may very well have run into it on this site:
Men get intimate to have sex. Women have sex to get intimate.
From my experience, I think this generalism has a lot of truth. Even if we don't have an orgasm, we can get an emotional satisfaction out of it just by being close to the person, especially if it's a person we're really keen on. Though it might not be as satifying as finishing with orgasm, we still enjoy the physical aspect.
I think most of us still want orgasms and would be frustrated if we regularly didn't get them, but it's not like we're going through the motions. It's more that we get into the moment, but the moment just fails to deliver. It's kind of like breathing into to sneeze, only to find out it's a false alarm. I feel like this happens to every woman from time to time.
There are probably woman out there who have sex just to make their partner happy too and probably those who have never had an orgasm and do it out of some sense of obligation...So yes, woman likely have anti-climactic sex for all the reasons you mentioned. I guess it depends on the woman.
I've always wondered if men ever fail to acheive orgasm? I always thought they came by default, but I guess they could have performance issues as well.
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reader, KeighleySky +, writes (20 March 2011):
 Well i personally like the physical comtact. I love how i can just be my true self in those moments. I also love the emotional side of it, i give myself to my bofriend and he gives himself to me and it fills me with a kind of joy that he's doing that. For me its physical, mental and emotional.
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