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writes:I am newly divorced, 35 years old and have no idea what men think sexy is anymore. The last couple of guy I was involved with was kind of REI, so I got used to wearing outdoor hiking clothes, and basically dressing down. Now I'm working in an office where there are available men and want to dress a little more sexy, without going over the top. So when a guy sees a woman at work, what do they consider to be sexy attire that doesn't look like she's trying too hard?....What is sexy?...Long hair?...Straight hair? Curls?...Skirts?....Suits?....Heels?...Flats?....What is sexy?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2010): ...walk tall, look men in the eye, give them a cheeky smile. Move with purpose. Don't show too much leg. Wear lively colours - and don't be too 'in ya face'...............be 'on ya face' instead! (That's right - I enjoy pleasuring women orally!) Well - you did ask........in a round-about sort of way! Good luck! :o)
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your responses. I am not ugly, nor fat. People generally think I'm 5 or 6 years younger than I really am because I stay in shape and can still wear a bikini without shame. I typically attract yuppy outdoorsy guys who think the perfect date is takiing me on a fishin/camping expedition. Don't get me wrong I enjoy camping and fishing occasionally but I don't want to lose sight of my feminine side and I no longer know what other men think is sexy. Most of your advise was helpful, however strange some of it was. Thanks again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2010): ...just to correct the response below:
all references to 1 should have been references to 3 and vice versa. Also 'naighty' is incorrect - should have been 'naughty'. Thank you for your attention!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2010): Yeah. Atom-smasher has it about right. But actually, there are roughly five types:
1) good looking / crap body,
2) crap looking / crap body,
3) good looking / good body,
4) crap looking / good body.
5) average looking / good body.
Of these, men will hit on number 5 the most. The number 1s are intimidating 'cos they have probably been called 'beautiful' all their lives and accepted this as gospel. Their lack of insecurities means that they have a lack of need for an ordinary guy. They can wait around for an alpha male no problem. No.3 women do quite well 'cos they can always lose some weight. However, if they then move into no.1 territory then they can ditch their man for someone better! No.4s are good for a one night drunken stand. Most men will be very happy with no.5 for a long term relationship. On balance I think a man would be willing to compromise more in the female looks department in order to get a woman with a better body. As for no.2. Well, no-one likes a bubbly fat smelly ignorant bird in denial about her own level of attractiveness - right guys!? Oh, and if they can hold down a conversation / trouser-press then even better! And if they act like a whore in bed as per all our favourite naighty web-sites, well, I might even push the Dyson round in return! Anon. P.S. Rest assured, ladies, my alter-ego is very romantic! And as you might imagine, I've cried many a tear at being rejected by the no.5s, whilst noting of course that I'd never approach a number 1! :o)
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reader, atomsmasher  +, writes (7 June 2010):
Hi. I am going to give it to you straight, so here goes.
Men only respond to two things, initially. Those are: Looks and easiness.
Looks are essential. If you are overweight, you need to hit the gym. If you dress outdoorsy, you need to dress like a sexual woman. Anything that shows skin is always good. But, here is the hard part about this. If you are an ugly woman, you are fucked. No man but a complete loser wants to be with someone who is ugly. Truth.
Next, you need to be flirty. Guys are usually much more intimidated by women than the reverse, so if you can get a guy out of his shell, he will love you for it. Of course, you don't want to come off as easy, but you certainly don't want to come off like a prude.
There are four types of girls that get hit on. Attractive women get hit on all the time. So do fat, attractive women, but, again, these are mostly losers that go for a girl they're not going to feel intimidated by. Then, there are girls that NEVER get hit on because they are too good looking, or they are too ugly. If you are too ugly, you have little hope because looks are definitely the most important thing to any type of real man that is not going to grovel at your feet.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (7 June 2010):
It's all about the confidence. Wear what you feel confident in, whether it's s suit or a skirt or a dress. If you feel confident, then others will notice.
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reader, spinnaker +, writes (7 June 2010):
 To me sexy is comfortable and all about confidence and attitude. "Trying" to be sexy is in and of itself the antethesis of such.
I would consider it tragic if you would be willing to change anything just to masquerade as what you would think someone would be attracted to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2010): I find women who are feminine and look and dress exceedingly well very attractive. They look professional and wear skirts.
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