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anonymous
writes:Me and my cousin have been secertly together for about 8 months but not properly, he specifically says we are not going out, yet kisses me and loves me. But now hes been emailing one of my friends as well as me and came up to a social and saw her, now my friend fancys him and wants him to take her out, hes not saying straight what he wants to no one, but everyone other than me thinks they're in love and is talking about them all the time. Its a problem now because my friend is asking me why hes not talking and is wondering why i'm annoyed and ive just said hes just mixed up but she now thinks theres more to it, i havent a clue what to do?
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reader, chrissy32789  +, writes (23 March 2007):
 hey hun, you are in a hard situation right now, not only is the problem with your bestfriend but your with your cousin and you have to keep it secret...keeping a relationship a secret is really hard and with your cousion is even harder but whatever makes you happy thats your choice but you still are young so if it dont work out with him you will have a chance to be with someone else...but back to your situation, talk to your cousion and ask him how he feels about you and if he tells you love love then tell him you would like him to stop talking to your friends, and tell your friends you would like them to stop hitting on your cousion, just make a story up like that he wont be right for them and make up an excuse if you dont feel comftable lettin people know your with your cousion, its not easy to keep someone you love a secret follow your heart and it will lead you to the right place! good luck and i hope it all works out for you
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reader, electra +, writes (22 March 2007):
 Hey there
Well sweet my advice to u is very simple remain honest stay true to yourself, tell Ur friend whats going on because when all else fails your friends will stick by you though thick an thin when a man dumps on u for a great height, so stay true to your friend tell her the score whats happened between ur cousin an u think if the boot was on the other foot u would want her to tell u right so follow ur head tell her the score then tell ur cousin to stop messing you about and playing you off against your friends cause that's exactly what he's doing yeah, so stand your ground tell him whats what an be truthful with your mates OK
i hope my advice has helped you a little bit at least :o)
if you ever need a friend or a shoulder to cry on don't hesitate to come and find me I'll always be here for u ok
Take Care :o)
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2007): im not 11, but 16 and scrolled to the wrong place. the love is not brotherly and we dont often get too much time to actually talk alone, as we are with the rest of our cousins.
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reader, {*HyPa~AzN~hUnNiE~*} +, writes (22 March 2007):
 well firstly think about wat sort of love does your cousin show u? it might be brotherly love or he just thinks of u as a friend? if your confused you should ask him. and if your cousin really loves you why is he seeing your friend and he knows shes your friend. apart from that your only 11 i dont mean to sound petty but after a couple of years time you will really regret this, u may not believe me now because ive been through stuff like this aswell which i really regret now
xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2007): I don't know about the UK but here in America it isn't morally acceptable to date one's cousin.. I don't know how far you want to go with him but you should know children born from ancest are in many cases deformed mentally and or Physically. I believe your cousin was only experimenting on you; then he found something better to play with.
Sorry.
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