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writes:My ex (4 years together--a few months apart) and I have been seeing one another again and speaking frequently. She has a new BF, but I love her and want her back. She knows this. Our breakup was due to my bipolar disorder, but I am well now. My ex will not tell her new BF that she is speaking with me because he will be angry. I have made romantic gestures (poems, letters, candy, sappy stuff in general, etc.) to make her happy very recently. she says she appreciates them. She says she needs time to see if I am right, but she will not leave her BF i the mean time. He is obviously a rebound--they got together immediately after our breakup (which was very painful for the both of us). Should I support them? what do I need to do to show her we should be together? I think she knows it, but won't admit it. It hurts so bad to wait. I need advice!
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reader, Garm +, writes (8 November 2009):
Garm is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShould I start seeing someone else? there is another girl who is quite fond of me, but my ex got angry when I told her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2009): the good news is that 90% of all rebound relationships don't work out. It's a fact, there was a study done. In the mean time you need to try and move on with your life. Don't go with the grand gesture, instead just be attentive when she calls, talk to her about life, but never pester her about her relationship. The goal is for her to think of you fondly and to think about all the good times you guys had together rather than any of the bad, so do your best not to mention her new boyfriend or ask about her relationship. You want to try and be her friend, limit the contact the two of you have to short, really fun activities and see where it goes from there.
You can't force someone to make that kind of decision. You have to kind of wait it out and let them make that decision themselves.
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