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*bradley
writes:my boyfriends co-worker told me that he is planning on braking up with me in july and moving in august and that he stopped caring about me 4 months ago,he told me no to everything and that him and his co-worker had words almost fighting. my boyfriend is quiet but he's not cheating. what do i do do i believe him
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2009): I don't understand exactly what you typed there as it was misspelled....however, I am not sure why that co-worker would have any motivation to hurt you other than he really doesn't like your boyfriend and he is either trying to warn you what a jerk he really is, or he is trying to break the two of you up because he wants to hurt your boyfriend.
My inclination would be to believe a little bit of both until I had it figured out.
You say your boyfriend doesn't talk to you, do you mean he ignores you most of the time, kind of like he is just there? Then he isn't really "there for you" is he, it is like you are just roommates all most.
Why are you living with him? Can you ask him to move out or can you move out and get your own place? If he hasn't asked you to marry him, then why are you living with him? He could very well be intending to break up with you, he is just dating you and living with you, doesn't mean he is intending to marry you or stay with you long term.
He is asking what he needs to do to gain your trust? Well, what does he need to do? My gut would tell me to tell him to get his own place, then if he wanted to earn my trust he would begin by asking me out on dates and paying a lot of attention to me and talking to me and telling me that he loves me.....
I would even consider dating some other guys.
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reader, bradley +, writes (26 March 2009):
bradley is verified as being by the original poster of the question i live with him. and he did say, what do i have to gane to keep you. he works but he does thing himself and he really dont talk to me but he says hes not cheating im started to ask questions all the time i dont know what to do
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reader, ErinPatterson +, writes (26 March 2009):
 I would take into consideration how long you have been dating and weather or not he has ever lied to you before.
That is a big factor if he normally doesnt lie to you than you should believe he is telling you the truth. I would be suspicious of a co worker who would want to hurt my feeling like that. I mean I dont know consider the source..unless it is a good friend of yours I would tell that person to kindly "back up"..
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2009): Well, why would your boyfriend tell a co-worker that about you and why would he deny it. Is he living with you? Does he depend on you for a place to live until he is ready to move? Does your gut tell you there is some truth to this rumour? Does your boyfriend seem emotionally distant from you? Forget about the prospect of cheating, does he seem like he is "there for you"?
Trust is the cornerstone of any relationship...so do you trust him or is their a nagging doubt?
How would we possibly know the answer to this question if you don't!
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