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writes:Yesterday I decided to say yes to this guy who asked me out and has really liked me for a while, it was a hard decision because I wasn't sure I wanted a relationship and I thought it would be weird for him because he likes me more than I like him.Everybody has always been saying he REALLY like you and he's in love with you- even people I have never talked to before, and talking to him always made me happy and put me i n a good mood on my worst of days. I will mention now that we mainly talk on msn, and sometimes at school.I thought things would be easy, but they're not. My friends and his friends just embarrass us so we didn't even speak that much today at school, but I guess im used to just speaking on msn. When I got home and went on msn and saw that he was online I felt like i HAD to talk to him, when usually I talk to him because I want to today was different. I'm starting to think maybe I shouldn't have said yes, I don't want to hurt him though, us going out makes him happier, but has no effect on me so its not wrong to continue the relationship. It feels like he wants a serious relationship, and I don't think I can give him that. He's asking me to spend time with just him at break and lunch sometimes, but I think it's going to be awkward and it means I have to leave my friends. I don't know what to do I'm just really confused, I really care about him, but my feelings arn't as strong as his.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (10 December 2009):
Just tell him that you are getting freaked out by all the pressure on you.
It's really weird being the centre of attention so just tell him you want to take it slowly.
I have been in your situation and it's not great, but the best thing to do is just keep your head down.
Your friends will find something else to obsess over in a week or two and then you can get back to being with this guy.
Just give him a chance and see if he makes you happy. But you are very young so just take it all slow and tell him you want to take your time with it all too.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (10 December 2009):
You're still a young lady, and you're still trying to find out who you are. You said it all when you said you did't think you wanted a relationship. It sounds to me like you would be happier and benefit a lot more if you ended it and just spent time on yourself and with friends. One day, you will meet a guy and you will know you want to be with him. You don't really want to be with this guy, so it would be better to end it and just enjoy being young with your friends.
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reader, Blod +, writes (10 December 2009):
 I think you should be honest with him. He's probably chuffed that you've agreed to go out with him but you seem to be leading him on. I don't mean that in a slaggish way at all. You sound caring and kind. But you know how you feel and you need to be true to yourself, as well as him.
So tell him if you're finding it hard, awkward or if you have any doubts. It might upset him but it's being cruel to be kind.
I'd advise you to meet up with him if he asks, even if it's awkward. It sounds like your locked in your relationship on msn so it would take a while for you to get out of that mode anyway. On the other hand, maybe you should try talking to him about how you feel on msn as that's where you're most comfortable with each other.
Be kind to him though. I'm sure you will anyway.
Best of luck. X
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