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writes:I have been going out with my girl friend for sometime but the problem is that I love her alot but when I'm around other people I don't like to hold her hand, hug her or anything. I just don't like to be seen with her, although she is beautiful, nothing's wrong with her. What do I do to get out of this problem or fix it? Reply to this Question
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reader, °Ale°  +, writes (25 March 2008):
 I personally don't think that "being mexican" or hispanic for that matter, has anything to do with being shy, and therefore not show any physical affection towards the person you love while in public. That would be something you'll have to work on.
Though I understand the feeling, if you were to look at your situation from your girlfriend's point of view, how would you feel to have her not wanting to show that affection to you then, but in closed doors tell you shes madly in love? Would you really understand it and let it go? In a way, don't you think it would be easier to work on you not being so shy, rather than affect your relationship with this girl?
Buena suerte!
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (24 March 2008):
 Since I'm Mexican and I think in Spanish, I think I get what the poster, another Mexican, probably another thinker in Spanish :-) really meant. I guess that a right rendition of what he feels, though certainly not a literal one, is that he feels uneasy about being seen with his beautiful girl. It's not "I don't like" as in "I don't like you". In other words, he is very shy :-). And he wants help with his shyness.
If she's just fine, all you need to do is get a grip on yourself. I would enjoy being seen with a great girl. Maybe you don't want to look too soft, but, I wouldn't worry about it. You have the woman, right?
For the poster, Mexican to Mexican,
Si no tienes pero que ponerle a la chava, ¿qué te importa lo que diga la gente? Ser cariñoso con una mujer no te hace menos ni quiere decir que te ablandes. Además, si está buena, ¿no te parece que es mejor que te vean con ella, y que te envidien la suerte?
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (24 March 2008):
 You sound like you want to keep your options open, is that the reason you don't want to be seen together? Don't you think that's just a bit shabby?
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reader, kenny  +, writes (24 March 2008):
 Are you sure your feeling's are totally all there for her?. I ask this because when we really like/love someone we want to hug them, kiss them, hold hands with them no matter where we are. I would take some time out and have a good long think to accetain whether you really do want to be with this girl.
Good luck
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