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writes:it's been almost 2 years since me and my ex broked up. she found someone new and so did i, i have been with my current girlfriend for a year and a half already but i still haven't got over my ex. me and my ex got into many arguements after we broked up and decided to see each other as strangers and never speak to each other again. just recently she "poked" me on facebook and i was surprise at that moment and decided to "poke" back too, we've been at it for 4 straight days already and just yesterday i bumped into her and her boyfriend at a computer lab at a community college i was speechless and so was she. i don't want to hurt my current girlfriend but i don't know what i can do with these feelings i still have left for my ex, i constantly think about her and i don't know how to help myself. what should i do or what can i do?
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reader, Maria-consuela  +, writes (3 November 2010):
 You need to make a decision. It is normal to have fond feelings for an ex if a break up isn't particularly turbulent or if it was practical and mutual. It isn't normal to think about your ex often and be preoccupied with her whereabouts and her actions.
Sometimes even after moving on when we see our ex settled in another relationship we start to remember all of the positive things about our relationship with them. We fantasize and rewrite history and imagine what would have happened under different circumstances.
You need to make sure that your feelings for your ex are more than grass is always greener thinking.
If they in fact are, you cannot in good faith continue in a relationship any further when the other party isn't aware of the way you feel. Discuss it with your current girlfriend, make sure that you are being completely honest and open. It is only fair that she know that at any point in specific and hypothetical circumstances that you may go in a different direction.
If you don't want to risk losing your current girlfriend and feel like you can work through these feelings and move on past them, start working on that now. Take your ex off your facebook, and don't spend time in areas where you know she will be.
It is admirable that you want to be true to your feelings, but keep in mind you may lose everything. You need to figure out if it is truly worth that. Your ex may be the one you end up with, but don't hurt your current girlfriend in the process.
Hope it all works out for you, and that you find what you seek. Good luck!
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