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writes:I'm in love with a 19 year old and im 14. I've told my mam and she didnt seem to botherd, me and him arent going out. I think he knows hes too old for me and he doesnt know what to do i love him so much. I dont think age should matter if your in love. Reply to this Question
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reader, Just a Girl... +, writes (10 May 2007):
 huni, im 16 and my bf is 25 so the hole age difference thing is a reli personal thing to me.
I say that if he treats you right and you both have genuine feelings for each other then go with it. The only thing you have to worry about tho is if you choose to sleep together while your so young.
If he treats you right and is a litle older isnt that better than a boy your own age that treats you horribly??
take care huni xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2007): I went through the exact same thing except I was 13 and he was 19. He knew he was too old for me, but he waited (at least) until I was 16 to go out with me. I found our age differece was a big problem. He drank, like most men do, and got drunk alot and hurt me. Please wait until your 18 to go out with this guy, your young and innocent don't lose that!
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reader, AskEve +, writes (6 May 2007):
 You're not in love with him, you don't know him well enough, you only have a crush on him. I suggest you chat to him and find out more about him, see what he's REALLY like. Once you get to know him more you might even find out that he's not "all that." You're too young for him at this moment, you're not even fully developed yet. I would wait a few years and if you still feel you like him and are still friends with him then by all means go out on a date together but for the moment it's best just to be friends.
Eve
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2007): I was 13 meeting my boyfriend of 16 years, I met him off the internet and i feel it was love at first site however the age gap was a problem on both sides. no one was happy for us but we held it together anyway he promised me the world but after awhile he wanted to be with people his own age clubbing and doing actives which i couldnt be included in. With the sex issue allow we shouldnt of by law we didand i became pregnant at just 15 there is no doubt that we loves our son but he isnt there as much as he could or should be. I think the meaning of my message is that relationship roots grow extremly quick, so thought is needed before the seeds are sowen
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (5 May 2007):
 I am in an age-gap marriage so I have to agree that age sometimes doesn't matter. I am surprised your mother isn't bothered by it however; I think I would be in her situation! I am glad your 19 yr old love interest is showing some maturity here - you may think you love him but it maybe just infatuation and frankly you may not have a great deal in common at the end of the day. You admire him as he is older and probably sorted out in the head department. However, he probably wants to go out drinking, clubbing and all that sort of thing and you can't as you are under-age. His mates would probably laugh at him if he had a 14 year old girlfriend (whatever the wrongs/ rights of it). I am not saying it is wrong to date someone older, but at 14 there is a huge mental gap to 19 years...you won't believe me now but give it a few years and you will know then. It is ok to fancy this guy - that is normal teenage hormones - it is not ok to base your whole happiness on his reaction to you. Just accept you will be changing a lot over the next couple of years, and if it is really love then maybe things will work out for you two when you are both adults.
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