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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi everyone i need some advise! Me and this guy really like eachother i've known him for 3 years and we have always had a soft spot for eachother. Three months ago I broke up with my boyfriend and now me an this guy ive know for 3 years are hanging out more often. The only problem is i'm planning on doing a 'TEFL' (Teaching English to Foreigners) course in a few months and I wont be settled down i'll probably be travelling a bit here and there this year. I'm also planning on going to university next september 3 hours away from where we live.So I guess I need to choose? Him or my career? I cant I need some advise! Thank you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2012): Your career, if its ment to be he will still be there for you when you come back and will be willing to be in a ldr with you. Just one thing though, you have just broken up with your boyfriend. This could be short lived feelings on your part. Many people who have rebound relationships enjoy the excitement of being with someone new, then it fizzles when the euphoria wears off.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2012): Thank you for all your advise everyone! The problem is, my heart is telling me to be with him because he makes me happy. But my head says I know I should focus on my career at the moment! It's so hard to fight my feelings and tell myself I cant be with him, it feels impossible to fight my feelings!
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (22 April 2012):
 Your career. If you get marketable skills now, they'll stay with you in ten, twenty, thirty years , - a guy you've just been recently hanging out may ot may not, most probably not.
You've also have to consider that you've just broken up with somebody, and so you probably like the new guy half for himself and half for the support and reassurance and attention he provides to you in a sensitive post-break up time. So you 'd be naturally inclined to overrate his role and imporetance in your life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2012): "When choosing between a man and your career, remember your career won't get bored and leave you one morning." But you kinda have to follow your heart on this one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2012): Your career because if he loves you he'll wait.
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