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writes: "Op Own Title" Just want to start off by saying this is a fabulous website thanks to all that make it that way... the first thing I need to say is I have told this girl I like how I feel she knows we are just friends and I said and stand my this I am fine with being just friends. Did I make a mistake my telling her how I feel I really mean I told her like everything. She was asking for all of it and I was powerless haha. I also told her about the writing I have done poems quotes stories ect, I showed her some writing I had and she said it was really good, then she asked was that about me? I said no but I sorta wanted to say yes because it kinda was about her. anyway I am in the process of moving ondid I make a huge mistake by telling her this from a (I want to date you stand point) or a (I just want to be friends stand point.) Reply to this Question Share |
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reader, justfriends +, writes (21 July 2010):
justfriends is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTo answer you question yes I do have romantic feelings for her I think about her somewhat often, I think she knows I want to be more than friends but I told her for the time being I am happy to be your friend.
She knows that I will always be there for her and will do what ever I can to help her, just like the song "you got a friend" sums up my situation sorta
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reader, jp21 +, writes (21 July 2010):
how far are you moving a city away, a state away. the internet is always a good way to keep in contact with some one, but i have to say it only goes so far, even if you have a cam too. You could meet another girl in the new city/state? or she could move onto. even if you are going out online, that wouldn't happen. seeing 2 ppl at the same time, well my sister did when she was younger. 3 guys that didn't even now. in the same city, blocks away from each-other. not saying that would happen to you, not saying it wouldn't.
I would move on, even though i have liked ppl. i'd still move and i'd miss her and some times i'd think about her.
but i mean doesn't stop me from going forward.
continute to be friends say to her that you really-really like her, but your moving and the poems were about her but you didn't want to tell her bec.. your moving. tell her you think you should be friends for now but maybe later if you come back or if she moves closer to you then maybe you can date her and see where things could go from there.
really you dont have to do any of what i am saying you could just tell her you want to date, its your life lol, so choose it your self. lol jasper
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reader, TimmD +, writes (21 July 2010):
I don't understand. Do you have romantic feelings for her or not? If you do like her more than just a friend, then you should tell her. There is a good chance she feels the same way if she's having this conversation with you and asking if those poems are about her.
If you don't like her romantically and just want to remain friends then don't say anything else.
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reader, SarahRussell +, writes (21 July 2010):
I think you have nothing to worry about! You handled this perfectly! By telling her you like her, but adding in you wouldnt mind just being friends, youve given her the option of just staying friends or taking it one step furthur. The rest is up to her. If she wants to make a move, she knows she can tell you. If not, you have a great friend there and well done for moving on with ease.
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