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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I have been seeing this girl for about a month and a half now, and everything is going great. She is 26 I am 22. She has a kid and works 2 jobs. Its hard to get time for us to go out so we spend most times at her house just hanging out. We are not offical or anything yet, we talked about when we thought we would be together offically and she said "soon but def not tonight." I spend the night at her place a lot of the nights because its about a 25-30 min drive home.Here's the problem:Recently, I spent the night and we showed eachother our ex's and talked about them. A friend messaged me on myspace while showing her my ex's and asked "how's the chick?" I thought nothing of it. When I woke up in the morning I went to the living room in just my boxers and her sister was there, I put my pants on quickly but remained shirtless and she thought that was disrectful to her sister. (Strike one). Then she brought up the fact I talked t a friend about her and she said she started to wonder "what I told people about her" and it bugged her (stiker two). I then proceeded to give her space by reading out on the roof. Her daughter saw me outside the window and wanted to come out, I ignored her and kept reading. She then came to the window and said why don't you just leave... I'm fustrated and I think you should just leave. (Strike three)What did I do wrong? How do I fix it? Is she done with me or just having a bad day? And when do I contact her?P.s. I really really like this girl
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2009): ok dude...from what i got from your letter it seems as if she doesnt really know what she wants...first off if you are not exclusive or anything like that then i dont see why she thought you were disrespectful in front of her sister ( maybe she thought you were trying somethin?) i dont actually understand the bit about a friend saying hows the chick?? but what i really think you were wrong with was ignoring the daughter, you clearly knew she wanted to come out and this is the time in the start of a relationship where you should be trying to win over everyone around the person you like...so where to go from now. send a very sincere message to her either text or email and say how sorry you are at the way things turned out..say you will leave her alone until she is ready to talk..then...DONT TEXT AGAIN. if she is interested she will text you if not move on...If she replies having a go at you then just say you are sorry again and would like to start over..good luk!!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (20 October 2009):
I think there may have been something else that was getting to her that day. Nine times out of ten, when a woman gets mad, it's because something that happened earlier has crept back up, and you've done something that's just pushed her over the egde. The lack of clothing made her feel bad because her sister saw you, and she'll naturally be worried about waht you've said to your friends. I would suggest calling her and just asking to talk about what happened face to face. Say you're sorry that you hurt her and just say that you will make it up to her. And most importantly, listen to her a lot and don't judge her. I think somethig else happened. Just say you'd like to talk so you can understand why she was frustrated. Hope it works out.
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