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writes:helloAn old man told me I have worked hard for my family, I have done everything for them to have a good life and now I am old, I can't do that much and I need help. Nobody helps me, the kids are busy with life and I am here lonely in eldery home what did I do to my kids for them to ditch me here ? Reply to this Question
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reader, home_land +, writes (30 March 2007):
home_land is verified as being by the original poster of the question i really do care for an old man who was remarkable in his youth and now is the trip with hospital health care and it sounds to me that not only the children wants him to be away but also the health system, i had a talk with dr he said to me one day we all will go and our bodys got older and we cant do that much for him, i have been 2 years living with him and to me he is a father and i really feel that with all of old people,at the hospital they bring the food to them and after they take it away if they eat or not this is not important ,so please if your dad or mom at the hospital make sure that you go 3 times a day to feed them its really tragic to see such things in the place where you supose to get healthy in the last 3 months he is been 7 times in the hospital and its really tru if no body was there hi wont be here and alive now,and i really wunder why the heath system treats old people like that? Why we dont make time for them to do something for the ones who brought us to this world and one day we will be where they are now ,thank you very much.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2007): I'm so sorry to hear about you, you can keep in touch with me if you want. My mam is in a care home, but after a bad fall, which she broke her hip, she just doesn't walk too good. Besides she is 97, and i just cannot look after her, but i do visit as much as i can. Her brain is really good so that makes me feel equally bad. It must be really hard for you. Do you have any hobbies that you could do during the day? Do you get a money allowance? Maybe you could take up painting or making something? I wish you well, live is horrible at times, your family should do more for and with you. Sorry that you are going through this. I've just sent you a big hug and kiss.
Take care and keep in touch.
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reader, Bailey J  +, writes (30 March 2007):
 It breaks my heart… I don’t agree with nursing homes… I used to work in one. All the elderly are depressed in them… their not happy. People put them there because it easier… there out of the way!!!
When I was working in one particular nursing home a lady said to me… ‘I put my mother here so she could be around her own age’ she’s happier this way! The ladies mother was deeply depressed. She didn’t want to be with people her own bloody age… she wanted to be with her large family in which she had worked so hard for all her life. Instead they put her in a nursing home… full of complete strangers!! That’s Just Lazy… the thing today is… people have too much of a busy life, they cant be bothered with looking after their loved one.
Well I tell you one thing; my mother will live with me… I will look after her the way she’s always been there for me… my whole life.
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reader, elsie +, writes (30 March 2007):
 sorry that you are in this situation.have you got many friends where you are?hope you dont mind but just from your words it sounds like maybe you concentrated on what you were giving them material wise maybe they felt that you werent at home enough?i dont know and sorry if im wrong.if ever there was a time that you do need to talk with them and show how emotional you feel its now.i hope ive been of help.if im wrong about any of it i apologise.it just the feeling i got from your letter.
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