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female
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36-40,
*dvice needed
writes:About a year a go i had to break up with my boyfriend because he treated me wrong. I'm 15 and we were together for 2 years. He was 16 when we first got together. For the first year it went perfect, We spent his birthday, My birthday and christmas together and acted like best mates. I'm very mature for my age as i'm always cooking and cleaning for kids. I get into night clubs and go to pubs on a friday night so i'm not exactly an adverage 15 year old. But anyway after the first year went by he started to go a bit wierd in the head and very violent and angry. He wasn't a virgin but i was. One night he sat there and told me he'd cheated on me several times which left me seriously heart broken and in tears. I couldn't let go off him because i was so in love. He kept telling me he loved me and that i was beautiful and held me tight but i knew he didn't mean it. The night i stayed at his which was usual. We slept in the same bed and never had sex he just held me tight. But this time he said the words. "Either you shag me or girl i'm telling you now its over!"I said i'm not ready but he still carried it on, He picked me up and held me down on his bed very firmly and started kissing down my kneck. Then the next minute he pulled down my trousers. It all went so quickly! The pain went on forever and i had tears in my eyes.After all of this he started to hit me when he was angry. We started having sex a lot more! Then the abuse got worse. He started punching me round the face, Kicking me in the pelvis. I'm infertile now because of all of this. All my memories left of me and him is me on that floor crying screaming at him to stop hurting me and him just carrying on.It has been a year now as i said in the first paragraph but i still miss him. I started dating someone else who seemed lovely. PIcked me up all the time took me to dinner or to the cinema. Didn't shag me was just caring and we got on so well. But in the end he broke my heart by telling me he can't go for me because he thinks if it got further hed be just like my ex.Now i feel like im the sort of person people would just want to be abusive to. And i wander what did i do to deserve this pain and suffering. Please people i would like advice to find out how the hell do i get over this and start over. Tried counciling and all of that stuff. Nothing works. Thank - youMads x
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reader, adamskidude +, writes (23 October 2009):
 This is definitely a very sad story. But there is always hope :)
Nobody deserves anything like this, least of all someone like you.
Have you tried taking a short holiday? Being somewhere completely new where nothing will trigger the bad memories could have some nice beneficial effects.
There are nice guys out there, I promise, you've just got to root through some nasty ones until you find the one you're looking for.
kthxbai ^^
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