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writes:I broke up with my bf.There were so many misunderstandings and confusion and unwilligness to open communication on his side,so that our separation came as logical solution and even relief.However i feel depressed and im sure he feels the same. nonetheless our relationship although short about 4 months,was the most intensive i ve ever had in my life. it threw me out of myself simply. However i left.He was mute telling nothing, so i didnt know how to react at all but to leave. he just said to me that, "The lies distroy friendship and the TRUTH love" Have anybody clue what the point of his was? It just like the words are sticken into my head and cant figure out what was he aiming at. I was honest, thats for sure,and he was Mute thats for sure too. Any opinion about the meaning after all? Thanks
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reader, anon_e_mouse  +, writes (14 December 2007):
 DO NOT CALL HIM. AND IF HE CALLS YOU LEAVE IT WELL ALONE.
This is an emotionally abusive relationship. You may be able to look at my previous posts about what I'm going through and believe me it's exactly the same.
After being in a relationship like this it is perfectly normal to feel what you're feeling. I bet you're analysing everything and having difficulty in understanding his behaviour/reactions to things.
I bet you get moments where one mintue you're up and the next minute you feel like crying. I have these feelings and have spoken to a counseller twice so far (and have an appointment to see again tomorrow).
THEY TELL ME THIS IS A TOTALLY NORMAL REACTION TO THIS. I cannot recommend you speak to a counseller about this. Even if it just lets you blow off some steam! Feel free to message me or post your updates here.
NUMBER 1 PRIORITY: LOOK AFTER YOURSELF AND STAY WELL AWAY FROM HIM.
p.s. FOr the record I never believed in getting counselling for issues before and am very skeptical about it. However NOW I HAVE TO SAY IT IS REALLY HELPING and can't stress enough - you should try it too.
Good luck! ANd keepo us posted. If you like you might be able to read my previous posts about my situation - you might find a striking resemblence to your own relationship here (or you may not) - I don't know whether theres a feature on here where you can look up a persons posts :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question anon_e_mouse,Im trying, I struggling every day,but it simply seems immposible..and he Cought me in difficult period,I have one exam to finish,and already got a job that will start in February,quite demanding one,And i cant consolidate Myself ,it seems like Im totaly broken into pieces... I wanot complain now,probably anyone who had such intensive relatinonship that Ended such quickly felt the same.. As for calling him,I had and have no intention, It would be like putting salt in open wound...He called me afterwards and wanted to speak to me(actually im faced with him seeing on skype every time i log on) and i delayed after the exam... the words are sticked into my mind and will be long I dont know simply how to move on and not thinking about it... Could be the TRUTh he was aiming at that i wanted more serious approach than we had? Im just asking Did he get scared after all? I wont say im not demanding when I value Somebody so high, and simply i was dissapointed That he didnt do Any move towards anything so clear...He didnt expressed HIMSELF apart from that That he Felt strong bond and Love towards me,the same i felt and feel still for him...NOTHING APART FROM THAT! Do You guys think I should speak after all with him? Or just to move on no matter of the feelings I have? What is more wise? Thank you again for all who answered me.
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reader, Meeh_06 +, writes (13 December 2007):
 I don't know quite what it means...
If its that the lies destroy freindships, then the truth destroys lovers...It could be that he may of been told something about you? And he thinks it's the truth, and hasn't discussed it with you?
That is my only answer to date. I will continue to think about it though, I know what it feels like to be depressed after a break up all too well.
Katy
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reader, theothergirl  +, writes (13 December 2007):
I think you should call him up, try to meet up with him and try to figure out what that means. Did you lie to him when u were with him? were u hiding anything from him when yall were together? this thing has so many meanings to me. i think he is the only one that could give u the true meaning. either way, u should talk to him if you feel this way about him.
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reader, anon_e_mouse +, writes (13 December 2007):
Hmmm... Difficult one this. TO tell the truth I have NO idea and I think you could dwell on this one for ages without getting anywhere.I remember my EX believed LUST was STRONGER than LOVE and that's why she was so insecure. I DO NOT BELIEVE THAT AT ALL but it did worry me she believed that.Shortly after I ended it.I'd say FORGET IT, KEEP YOURSELF BUSY and MOVE ON.p.s. The relationship I had with my EX was also the most intense, time-consuming and tiring relationhip I've EVER been in too and can understand the sense of "relief" you felt - I too felt the same.Good luck and I say FORGET IT - It's TOTAL RUBBISH and you're probably better off without HIM if that's his philosophy :)
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