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writes:Hi there. I am really interested to know if there is anyone on this site who has tried threesomes. I am not talking about trying for the first time or thinking about it - but am interested in hearing from people who can look back on the experience with hindsight. I am particularly interested in how doing this has affected your main relationship. Is the relationship better for it, is it past, an ongoing feature? Have you stayed together? How does trust get affected if at all? I recognise that everyone is different but would really like to see how many people find it positive, as opposed to negative? I am against it personally, except as a fantasy and am testing to see whether this is reasonable or whether you have experience that I can challenge my views with!
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reader, Catflap1 +, writes (16 November 2010):
Catflap1 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all - I really appreciate your answers. I suspected this all along as I also have a friend who did it and it broke her and her man up. I think it is the truth and people who risk it risk a lot but get into feeling falsely secure about trying, because of the hype. It wonder if having sex can get a bit disassociated from the emotion because it sells things and we are all being encouraged to be a bit selfish and shallow. I agree that the best time to try it may be when all three are single but once committed to a relationship it is a bad idea - very good point. Sorry that some of you got hurt by trying it but thanks for sharing your wisdom.
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reader, kary  +, writes (15 November 2010):
I had a threesome with my friends (a married couple w/ kids).It definitely affected my relationship now even though i did it before i was with my fiance.My boyfriend knew that something had went on the minute i introduced them cus i guess the guy gave him a funny look. He later asked me about it and it old him everything.My fiance has this friend who has a female friend who's very much a hoe and every1 knows it.When i told my boyfriend i didnt really like the way they talked 2 each other he said how could i accuse him of cheating (when i wasnt) that i was such a hypocrite cus i was the 1 that fucked my friends and still brought them around him several times. It got thrown in my face several times.As for the couple theyre still 2gether but they always have trust issues.the girl only agreed with him on the 3sum cus she knew her husband liked me so instead of him cheating she joined in.Honestly i didnt even enjoy it and it wasnt worth it at all.A few months back my fiance asked if we could have a 3sum I said no cus i loved him and didnt want 2 see him fuck some1 else.he said he wouldnt, he just wanted 2 c me with another girl (IM BISEXUAL), buit i still said no cus obviously with all the excitement he would join in.My advice is DONT DO IT,if ure partner really loves u hell eventually get over it when he understands is not what u want.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2010): yes,girlfiend and her friend. she persisted then couldnt handle it after. still mentions it in arguments.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (15 November 2010):
 It take a particular mind set to handle a threesome and all parties have to have it. Personally I think two's company and three's a crowd.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (15 November 2010):
 Worst thing I ever did, if I could erase it from my memory I would... pressured into it by my then girlfriend and another girl, what could go wrong eh?
Everything.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (15 November 2010):
 Personally if you are in a relationship then i think threesomes are wrong and that they lead to trouble. Ok i know everyone has there own opinion and even though there might be a couple who are both up to trying it, i could almost bet by the end of it at least one of them are feeling jelous or maybe even left out, it hurts people in relationships, it breaks trust and nothing good will come out of it. Believe me. Its ok if the three people getting together were all single but i deffo think that it is a big no no for a couple to invite someone in to there bed.
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