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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and I have been fooling around for quite a while. We're having fun touching and feeling and kissing. However, when we try the real thing... it doesn't work. His penis just won't get in me. I am pretty sure nature was made so that part A would fit in part B, so all I can think is that somehow we're doing something wrong... but I don't know what! Does anyone have an idea? (and yes, we're trying with the right opening.)
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2007): when you're a virgin there is a thin layer of skin covering the opening called the 'hymen'. when you have sex for the first time then the hymen tears (it causes a bit of light bleeding but it's ok). just push a bit harder.
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female
reader, cheerycharlie  +, writes (3 September 2007):
 Hi ya, a mans' penis is a lot bigger than your fingers during foreplay so it may be that you are a bit tight at the moment. If you keep on trying and maybe use lubricant then it will be easier for you to do it. Just make sure you relax and your muscles will relax as well. yours charlie xxxxxxxx
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reader, penta  +, writes (3 September 2007):
 This sounds like "vaginismus":
"a condition which affects a woman's ability to engage in any form of vaginal penetration, including sexual penetration, insertion of tampons, and the penetration involved in gynecological examinations. This is the result of a conditioned reflex of the pubococcygeus muscle, which is sometimes referred to as the 'PC muscle'. The reflex causes the muscles in the vagina to tense suddenly, which makes any kind of vaginal penetration -- including sexual penetration -- either painful or impossible."
See here for more information: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vaginismus
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