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writes:Hey we broke up and I have sent him messages at least four times online with breaks of 1 to 2 weeks he has never responded.The messages haven't received the blue double ticks yet, so I tried reaching out on facebook for the last time.He hasn't responded to it and the message isn't marked as seen. I am just wondering why if he doesn't want to talk to me he won't unfriend me or delete my number? Is he not reading my messages hence the lack of blue ticks online and not seen receipt in facebook? Or he is he just too mad at me. Our relationship was still young and I find hard to believe that someone could have intense feelings and just switch off
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2015): As horrible as it sounds, I think you will just have find a way to move on. Even if he hasn't seen your messages, he could have contacted you himself - but he hasn't. I think it's best if you just delete him from facebook, block his number from your phone, and look to the future... Plenty more fish in the sea ...
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2015): Hi. I have been in a similar position & I'm still wondering why he is so annoyed with me & stopped contact!
The double ticks thing you mention - must be from Whatsapp? If they haven't turned blue it means they are unread - or maybe even blocked.
From my experience - like Cindy says - he has either found a sudden dislike about you - (could be anything), or if you have had an argument - he may be in a bad mood for a while.
Personally - I find people (usually men - but some woman) - who just cut contact without an explanation are both rude and cowardly. It hurts!
Everyone deserves at least to have an explanation before loss of contact, even if you don't like what you are going to hear!
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (6 June 2015):
 It may be hard to believe for you, but in fact it happens quite often. Things sizzle when everything is new - and pretty soon sizzle. The fact is that " intense feelings " is not the same as DEEP feelings. In fact, in a way it may be a bad sign when in a fresh relationship one gets such strong, intense feelings right off the bat, without really knowing much about the person. Because it's all based on infatuation, on superficial stuff, on instant chemistry - and on projecting YOUR wishes and hopes as if over an empty canvas. You think you have met Prince or Princess Charming, you are inclined to idolize them, to think they are perfect.... until one day, being human, they do or say something awkward or stupid or unappealing that messes up this unrealistic idea of perfection and spoils the fantasy. It may be something really small or silly, but it's enough for the " idealizer " to feel disappointed and sort of shortchanged and make him / her want to restart at once the search for another Miss or Mr. Absolutely Right.
Again : strong is not the same as deep.
Anyway, in ref. to your question,- nobody can know for sure but he , I can only offer two guesses :
1 ) because he SO can't give a f..k anymore that he won't even bother making the effort to cancel you from his contacts. I know that I still have among mine those of acquaintances that I haven't seen in ages, or artisans which I am sure I will never hire again. What's the rush. They can stay there dormant, it does not bother me. When I'll find the time and inspiration for the next thorough
" spring cleaning " of my phone / email, I'll delete them.
2) because, as you say, he is still so very mad or sad about your break up, or about something wrong that, in his opinion, you did or saod , that he does not want to make himself more upset by reading your messages now. But, he keeps them because he will want to know what you had to say in a future date, when he won't be mad anymore.
Either way ( or in case of other reasons other readers may come up with )- I do not understand why you sent him so many messages, and why you are worried if he reads them or not.
Didn't you say you broke up ? Broke up means it's over- the end. Often it may mean total communication breakdown. If you are one of the " let's stay friends " school- well, he does not HAVE to feel the same.
Really, it does not make a lot of sense that you make so much effort.
If you are the one who initiated the break up- well, you got what you wanted and you can leave it at that.
If you are the one who got dumped : he made clear he does not want even read stuff from you, forget communicating. It's not by chasing him like this that you'll get him back. It was a fresh, new relationship- and he may have realized SOON that you weren't suited to each other, saving both of you quite some time and misery.
I would try to move on. You can't will him to read your messages if he does not want to, so- after 5 unread messages maybe you should not only stop contacting him , but also stop trying to figure out what he thinks.
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