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writes:hello i just met this guys recently at a friends party and he thought i was cute and i thought he was cute as well. so then the week after that it was his birthday so i sent him a message saying happy birthday, i dont know if you remember me but i just wanted to wish you happy birthday. so he then wrote back to me saying how could i not remember your the only one that caught my attention. then i went to the movies with him and his cousin and it was a little awkard.so i then come to figure out that he is in a gang and has had a rough childhood. what conversation can i give to him so that he could be interest and open up a little??
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reader, la mas linda +, writes (8 October 2010):
Thanks to all of those that answered my question it definately gives me alot to think about.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2010): The reason why i would like to get allong with this person is not to benefit me at all.. but because his cousin would love for me to invite him to church.He stop going to church a while back.and im just trying to find a way to get into his head and see why he is the way he is.At the same time invite him to come to church so he could see that it is not so bad after all. Plus i dated a guy along time ago that was in gangs and those things but with time and care/love i took him out of gangs. so i was wondering if it would be easy to take this guy out of that.his family sufers seeing him get more tattoos and just not doing the correst thing. thats the reason of my question.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2010): Wise up. I dont mean to smack a label on this guy but gangs spell nothing but trouble. Youre still at an age where you are highly influenced even if you know right from wrong and its a risk not worth taking by getting involved. There's tons of guys out there who may find you attractive and you dont deserve risk so why take it. Be patient and a good guy will come along. This is hands down a no no for anyone at any age. Good luck.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (21 September 2010):
 So,let's see what you could talk about with a cute gang member.... maybe drive-by shootings ? Drugs sales ? Juvenile detention ?...Honey, there are loads and loads of cute guys out there ,... and you want to impress a gang member ??? Why ??
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reader, Mimzyluv +, writes (21 September 2010):
Ask him about the gang, or things about him that intrest you. be yourself ^.^
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2010): He's cute, he had a rough childhood and is now in a gang... Hon, think about this. He is in a gang. That means, in most cases, that his life is owned by that gang. He has to do whatever his leader commands and sometimes, those orders are illegal and/or highly dangerous. Being involved with him could lead to heartache. I know a former gang-member who suffers from severe depression and on suicide watch because his little girl was killed by a rival gang. He tried to get out and his gang members beat him until he was almost dead. He's not a bad person, but he has so many regrets, so many he has hurt. You seem to have an open heart but I warn you to be careful. Don't get involved with him if he's running with a gang. You can stay friends from a distance. Going into his life will negatively affect you too. How could you sleep knowing ur bf is out doing illegal things? Getting arrested? Shot at? Shooting? Selling drugs? No matter how "good" a young man seemed, I'd die before he dated my daughter while in a gang.
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