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writes:i have a friend that i've known for over 5 years now he thinks his ugly and asked for my help what should i say to him he has only had two girlfriends and wants to no why can you help ??? Reply to this Question
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reader, sammii +, writes (11 June 2007):
sammii is verified as being by the original poster of the question thaqnks for all your help guys but you se the thing is im 14 and his sixteen so i need help on how to reasure him that everything is ok and that he dont need that many corners as i said before i feel like om being backed into a corner with these questions from him any ways thanks for all your help xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2007): inner over outer though outer is always a factor. 2 girls friends may seem like nothing but if he is around your age dont worry. Some guys just dont put girls first they personaly are more interested in the girl personality. My bf's brother is 17 and has just/is with his first girlfriend and they seem to really like each other. Ask him questions try to get deeper into what he thinks and then try to help.
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reader, jomana  +, writes (7 June 2007):
 you could start by saying know your inner beauty to see your outer beauty if you do not believe in your self you will never see your self as good looking
another solution is to tell it differs from you seeing your self and from people seeing you so maybe there are things that you see peole doen't see in you
or you could simply tell him stop thinking about the fact that you are feeling ugly and life will be easier
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reader, I Dont Lie +, writes (7 June 2007):
 Im assuming he's of the same age as you are. If so, having had 2 previous girlfriends by that age is by no means an amateur. He's had a lot more than a lot of other people at that age.
About his insecurities on his looks, you can tell him that to each his/her own. This applies to every single one of us. Personal tastes vary from person to person, what he needs to deal with is not opinions from other people, but from within himself. There isnt an issue with his looks when it comes to the general public, otherwise he wouldnt have even gotten any girlfriends (but even if he didnt, this doesnt make him an ugly person!), the issue only occurs only when he sees his reflection in the mirror. He needs to confront whatever it is that is causing him to think that way. That, unfortunately, is his personal battle and theres only so much you can do.
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (7 June 2007):
 Well first of all having 2 girlfriends at your age (which ill assume he is) is quite alot and more than most people would at that age. Tell him that. As for being ugly i know telling him may not exactly work, how about complimenting him every now and then, if that doesnt work he asked for your help so why dont you go shopping with him and give him a "manly" makeover which should boost his self esteem
Just compliment him is the best way.
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reader, xsuperbunnyx +, writes (7 June 2007):
There is no 'answer' to why people don't have girlfriends or boyfriends really. Assuming he is your age, two girlfriends doesn't seem a 'low' number - he must be doing something right!
I think the best thing to do is just reassure him that he's not ugly. Everyone gets hang-ups about how they look, all he needs is a good friend when he's feeling a little down. I think to a certain extent, confidence is attractive to the opposite sex. =]
Hope this helps.
Take care.
xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2007): Just keep telling him hes not ugly... say youve already had 2 girlfriends!!! so he must be cute and have a nice personality!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2007): Sweetheart you are both so young, all you can do is be a very good friend to him us girls are different in the way that when my mate thought she was ugly, and it didnt matter how many times i told her she wasnt that in the end i just grabbed her gave her a complete makeover then showed her how with a little work and believing in urself from the inside is were the beauty lies. She could have done what i did but with no belief inside her she didnt think anything would help, Beauty really does lie within a person how kind and caring they are. My son always thought he was to small for his age and didnt have much confidence but now at 18 he has to let the girls down gently as he is in a long term relationship and all the ladys love him because he is on there wave length, That may be my fault as ive always told him to respect women and there ways. You are a lovely friend and a beautiful person to want to help your friend so much just you be there darling and do the man makeover it works both ways ya no and im sure intime with your help your friend will be fighting off the women just remember kindness and caring are the most important values in life and you are already there take care of both of you xxx
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