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writes:hey peopleI was actually involved with this guy who I really loved to death, I desperately wanted to have kids, but he had some health problems,(he couldn't produce any sperm, but he would have an erection). Sex was good, everything and I understood his problem and was willing to be there for him, until I found out that he was cheating on me, I loved but I also did the same and got pregnant by the other guy. I told him about this.We are now good friends, out of the blue he comes to my to tell me he has a child, saw the pictures the baby looks nothing like him and I know for a fact he couldn't have been the baby's daddy cause we even went to doctors to get him checked and there wasn't a slight chance of him getting me pregnant,,I don't what to say cause I really love him and I don't want him to hurt more than I've hurt him, cause this will be disastrous if the child is not his, and don't want to get involved and get burnt, he might think I don't want him to be happy or something.people advice as much as possible
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2009): Angel south Africa is a big place filled with men, females out number the men here, but he is a cheater and if that is his child he is a liar ontop of it, he cheated on you and you cheated on him that’s not the best thing you coulve done, but atleast you got a great gift that little baba inside your tummy, but it still wanst the best decision, but whats done is done, what you need to do now is focus all your attention on that baba growing inside of you, when you have a child your life becomes about them and not about yourself anymore its about that child, you have a responsibly now, forget about this man, you will get a man that loves you more than you could ever imagine, a guy who loves you and no one else, a man who will never betray your trust, but I don’t think its him, and whats this you saying you don’t want to hurt him more than what you already have????? This man cheated on you he deserved a kick in the bolls if you ask me, sweetheart don’t lower your standards and don’t let go of your values, he is not the only man in the world, be strong for that bundle of joy you carrying and love it as much as you can, and make sure to raise that child in a way that her or she knows that cheating and lying is wrong.
Good luck and keep me posted
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2009): Its impossible for a doctor to say that it will never happen, i have experience of this myself, never say never. Anyway, u obviously dont want this guy to get hurt? but at the same time, its not really ur business anymore, i understand u dont want to see someone ur close to get hurt, but i think u should take a step back and let nature take its course here, u could get into a real mess here with accusations.
take care xox
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reader, pastfirst  +, writes (7 January 2009):
 what kind of love is this with both of you cheating on each other? OKay. So you're now pregnant with someone else's child.
It's really not your business who the real father of his child is. It's HIS business. He knows whether he can really father children or not, so he knows if he's the father.
But the important thing now is to make sure you give YOUR child a good life. Get on with it!
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