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writes:hello. Me and My girlfriend are going away on holiday in a couple of days but is its not the same holiday. we are both going with our families. this is her second holiday if the summer.anyways the problem is thing aint to smooth at the moment, if your read my other question you will understand more but if you haven't dont worry. i worried that things might be awkward or we might be to distant after the holiday, im also scared that she might cheat as we are distant at the moment. i wanna know what i should say to her before we go away. i dont wanna sound to desperate or to suspicious.how do i go about this?your advise would be appreciated :)
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reader, know_it_all  +, writes (24 July 2007):
Don't bring up cheating, you are right about that. I didn't read your other questions, but even if things are not smooth. Before you leave why don't you leave her with a happy lovey thought.
Tell her you know that things have been hard, but you care about her and you are going to miss her a lot while you are going to be apart. Or even better say bye and all that good stuff and get her a card.
Stick the card in her luggage with something sweet written in it. If you cant get to her luggage see if her parents or a sibling will do it for you. She will be supprised and she will be happy that you were so thoughtful. A little baby stuffed animal would be cool to include, we love to take stuff with us that reminds us of you guys and that we can snuggle with.
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reader, penta +, writes (24 July 2007):
 Have a frank conversation with her about the state of your relationship and whether it's "exclusive." Tell her you would like it to be.
It may be that she wants that too and this would be a chance for her to put any concerns to rest. If she agrees, then you have to trust her. Don't bring up cheating. You find out whether someone is trustworthy by TRUSTING them.
If, on the other hand, she wants to date other people, then you have to decide what you want. If you're not okay with that, then I recommend you go your separate ways.
If you still want to be with her, 2 things: (1) you have to be okay that she's dating other people. Constantly treating her like she's cheating when she's being honest is pretty crappy, and she'd be right to be annoyed with you. And (2) you should ask that a condition of dating other people be that everyone in every relationship knows that there are other people (so that she can't date someone else without telling him she's also dating you).
Good luck.
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