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writes:I am involved in a relationship that has no commitment. I have been questioning whether I should continue or go find a guy that is willing to commit. I get my self all worked up to tell him that Im not going to keep having sex and this nonrelationship with him, but the second I see him in person my mind changes. I find him completely charming and everytime I see him its like I forget how attractive he is. I really enjoy hanging out with him and the sex is really good between us. I really wish he would commit to me but he has said that he isn't ready for another relationship for a while.Plus, I know if he was really that intersted he would be willing to commit...anyway. Is it bad if I continue this relationship and sleeping with him until he or I find something better? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2007): dont waste your time with this believe me,i was in this situation until 2 weeks back,i was looking for more,and he kept coming out with rubbish like lets carry on and see what happens.nothing will happen,you will not find anyone while you are with him.this guy i was with kept saying stay with him to someone else comes along,there only using you,get out of this before its to late and you get hurt.
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reader, penta +, writes (24 July 2007):
 Well, I don't see anything ethically wrong, but I'm afraid that you won't be able to fall for anyone else while you're in this relationship (that you've agreed will go nowhere).
When someone tells you who they are, believe them. He's not going to want a commitment with you, and staying with him just in case he changes his mind will bring nothing but heartache. And staying with him until someone better comes along won't work; you've probably already met "someone better" several times, but you're not seeing him ('cause you're with your Mr. RightNow).
If you want a real relationship that will progress, you should leave this guy, let your heart mend, then look elsewhere.
In the meantime, work on things that make you confident about yourself (confidence is sexy). Good luck!
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reader, LauraE  +, writes (24 July 2007):
No it isn't bad. You have both been honest with each other about what you want. The only reason to stop is if it is hurting you because you have strong feelings for him that he cannot return. Then you need to end it to protect yourself.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (24 July 2007):
 In principle, yes, it's not the best. But, apparently you two can manage. I think you two are in the relationship just for the company and the attraction.
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