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writes:I have been going out with this guy for 7 months now and we always argue what can i do to stop these arguments? Reply to this Question
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (3 November 2007):
 You should only need to apologise once for not hearing your phone. I'm forever apologising to people cause I don't hear my mobile ringing. I don't hear it and can't feel it vibrate when I walk and I make everyone panic because of that fact.
You're not perfect and neither is he so he shouldn't try and make you feel like you have to be. You are only human and its our flaws that define who we are.
The arguments aren't fair on either of you! Especially you when you end up feeling like you are walking on egg shells. You don't have to be at this guy's beck and call. If I lived in my partner's pocket it would drive me crazy. Isn't it nice to not be in contact for a little while (a few hours or an evening I mean, not days) and then seeing each other again and catching up.
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reader, Andy00 +, writes (1 November 2007):
 Yes, I have experienced silly little falling out's like the one you describe. It isn't your fault, in my opinion. It isn't as if you intentionally missed his phonecall, so he should understand this, and not let it bug him like it does.
It used to annoy me if I sent my (now ex) girlfriend a text message, and not get a reply. I used to question why she didn't text back (only out of curiosity), and eventually she got fed up of me "making a big deal of it". To this day, I don't think I made a big deal of it. I guess our situation was different purely because ours was a Long Distance relationship. It's a real pain waiting on a reply that never comes knowing that we may only get to SPEAK to eachother later. It wouldn't have been as annoying if I was safe in the knowledge that we would actually be together later that day.
Anyway, like I was saying, as your situation is somewhat more "normal" than mine and my ex's, if you can explain why you missed a call, this should be easy for him to accept without making a big deal of it. After all, you would see eachother later, presumably, so what is the harm?
I think you should tell him that it's pointless for him to react the way he does, especially after you apologized. Why should he drag out his frustration whenever you're in eachother's company, when the thing that annoyed him was whenever you weren't in eachother's company?
Best of luck with him. I hope he will start to be a little more understanding after the two of you talk about this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell he causes arguments over the smallest littelest things..like tonight he fell out with me because i never heard my phone go off and i was havin a chat with my mate aswell so i think no wonder i didnt hear it but he just totally blanked me for like an hour then it was if he was sayin to himself right i have gave her the silent treatment she should be fine with me...i mean we are ok now but i keep sayin sorry and everyone tells me dont say sorry because i have done nothing worng but i feel like i have to...i totally love this guy but all these arguments are totally messing me up..please help i know im onli 15 coming on 16 but it will help me in later life too and hopefully make us work better
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reader, Andy00 +, writes (1 November 2007):
I would say this question is insufficient. What do you both argue about?
Please offer us more information.
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (1 November 2007):
The easiest thing for me to say if you feel a row brewing is to walk away from each other. Different circunstances but me and my partner have been rowing a lot lately. I'm 9 months pregnant and this is mainly the blame as I'm a moody cow right now. If we feel a row brewing my partner will go for a walk or go and play on the pc and I'll read or something.
Try also chatting with each other about why you think you are rowing. Is it because one of you feels the other isn't committing or something like that. The more you talk and are open with other, the more hopefully the arguments will stop. Plus looking at your age all teenagers fight. :)
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