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22-25,
anonymous
writes:Hey Everyone, I am taking part in the School Show and for my part I have to kiss someone. I don't mind but I have never kissed a boy before so I am really nervous.What can I do to make myself feel a little more comfortable and less nervous? Reply to this Question
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (9 September 2016):
 Stage kisses, my dear ! Ask this play's director or your drama teacher or whomever is in charge to show you and teach you how to give a " stage " kiss. One that looks real but it's not- often you don't even have to have a lip-to-lip contact. There are different ways, the most common is, one of you can place your hand on the side of the other's neck . So the fingers are behind the ear and the thumb can lean against the co-star's lips. When you, or the co-star, leans in for the kiss , you kiss the thumb rather than the lips.
While I understand that if it were a Broadway play , or anyway a play on a professional stage, the director would and should probably insist for a real kiss - a " fake " kiss is perfectly appropriate for the School Play with young teen actors ; as a matter of fact, probably if they wanted you to give a real kiss, in the name of art... they would be sieged by a gaggle of ( rightly ) furious parents.
I went to a " real " acting school
for future professional performers , but even there ,
" stage " kisses were acceptable if the student preferred that. After all, ... acting is the art of faking something making it all seem real.
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (9 September 2016):
Tell yourself this...It is my first time...but he won't forget it :)
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reader, Anonymous 123 +, writes (9 September 2016):
 How is that that your school play is making you kiss a boy? If you were my daughter, I'd have a lot of objections to this! This is certainly not right but anyway, if it still calls for a kiss, then just fake it. No one's going to expect you to do it the way its done and you shouldn't either. You're not putting up a show to titillate viewers; just kiss him on the side of his mouth and be done with it.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (9 September 2016):
 Just breathe. Talk to your teacher about if the kiss is necessary or if it can be faked. Also ask if the kiss will be done in rehearsals - it should only be a peck, not a proper kiss :)
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reader, RubyBirtle +, writes (9 September 2016):
Well, this is a school show so I doubt the shows director (presumably your drama teacher) is going to want you to do a full passionate snog.
If you are using a traditional "proscenium arch" style theatre (elevated stage at one end of the room and audience on chairs at the other)- it's very easy to fake a kiss. I've done this in plays before and you don't have to make mouth to-mouth contact. Your drama teacher will be able to show you both how to do this effectively.
And if you do have to make mouth-to-mouth contact, you shouldn't have to give him more than a peck on the lips. Watching people snog in theatre can be quite an icky experience for the audience (even more so if the audience is full of parents) so passion and other emotions will need expressed by the dialogue, facial expressions, posture and gestures. Once again, the director will talk you through this during rehearsals.
So the best person to talk through your anxieties with is your drama teacher. He/She is a professional.
But having said that, nerves are a part of theatre ducky. We all get anxious when faced with challenges in the theatre. if you carry on with acting in any capacity, there will always be something that you haven't done before. Just tackle it head on. Learn some yoga and some deep breathing techniques which are great not only for calming nerves but really help with voice control, projection and posturing for all actors and actresses
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reader, Been there Now over it  +, writes (9 September 2016):
I don't think a school should make you kiss a boy whether it be for a school play or whatever, especially at your age. If you wish to do so, don't feel at all ashamed if your want to back out on this.
The aunts will have plenty of good advice for you in regard to getting into your comfort zone. It might be a very fun and beneficial learning experience for you. I'm just a little put off that they would ask this of you. As most often happens in real life, you can let the boy take the lead and you can just follow.
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