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writes:Hi, I'm after advice re my ex. I dumped her about a year ago but we stayed in touch and I thought we might get back together a few weeks ago but I changed my mind cos I met a woman at work I quite fancied. I was angry with my ex because I asked her to do me a favour and she was taking her time about it so I told her how angry I was about it and I told her it was payback time and I was going to go off with this other woman. Me and the ex were together for nearly ten years. I dumped her because I wanted her to lose some weight. I am 52 and she is 43 so there is a bit of an age gap. Anyway the night I was getting ready to go out with this other girl, she was calling me constantly all evening and leaving texts because I had refused to speak to her. I told her she has got serious mental health problems and is a psycho and I told her to clear off and leave me alone. My son is now calling me a 'bast*rd' cos he says I was out of order. What can I do to make him understand that this bitch is a psycho and that I am not the one in the wrong. He told me I am a bully who used to bully him and his mum (I divorced his mum a few years ago because I was sick of her). I am furious that my ex has managed to come between my son and me because he is all that matters to me in the world. Sometimes though I feel like he can't even be bothered with me. He is at college and comes home every other Sunday, has dinner then goes off with his friends! He said I should work things out with my ex cos she is a nice person but I told him to mind his own business. Does my ex sound like a psycho to you?? I told her out of the blue I must admit, that I was going to go and sleep with this other girl and it was like it sent her over the edge! I first I was laughing about it but she kept calling and calling and leaving messages and I just cut her off or ignored her. She rang the landline a few times but I just hung up on her. She said I was being cruel. Was I being cruel???? My son said I was acting like a 'c*nt'?? I've been feeling depressed lately and the new woman is not all that great to be honest. Any advice or ideas would be great. Thanks.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (9 March 2010):
 It would be so brilliant if we here at DC could get in touch with your ex and your son. Firstly to extend our sympathy to them both, tell them that even though we don't know them that we actually care about what they are going through and offer them some advice about living and coping with a cruel, self centred, ignorant bully...(that would be you!!)
You need to seriously take a good look at yourself and what you are doing. Are you so blind that you are unaware of your behaviour??? or are you in denial hoping that you can eventually overpower the people in your life with fear, disrespect and vitriole??
If things don't change I don't think it will take a genius to work out that you are going to end up an extremely lonely old man.
You have a good son and a woman who wants to be with you. You deserve neither at this time in your life...but you can change and for the sake of your soul and your darling son...I think you should.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (9 March 2010):
Your ex didn't come between you and your son. Your son is telling you something, and you're not hearing it. You seem to be sick of not just one woman, but too. I would strongly suggest that you sit down with your son and listen to him. He's saying something to you.
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (8 March 2010):
Ok, now that I have managed to pick my jaw up off the ground, I have to first say that what I really want to say to you might get me banned from this site.
But I will say that your girlfriend is not a psycho and if she isnt, then you know who is. You dumped her because she was overweight??? And now because she is keen to win you back you are calling her foul names and blame her for your son taking her side? Wow. In this case, I would say keep away from her and tell her you definitely don't want her back because she deserves someone better. She needs a REAL man in her life, not you.
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