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anonymous
writes:My bf is 11 years old than me i am 17 and he is 28 he gets very jelous but then he loves parading me in front of his friends. We were in a pub. I bent over to pick up a packet of crisps and he was saying to his mates "that is all mine when ever i want it" i told him i didnt like what he said and went home.His mate was telling me how he tells him all about me and him having sex and what we do and everything and how he was my first time and how tight i was and that he popped my chrry and how great it was to see me bleed (of course im very upset its very private). He is really upsetting me.Then he tells me what a slut i am and that i shouldnt flirt with the guys from my college even though i dont and he doesnt like me having guy mates!Why does he talk about me this way? Is it the age thing will he change is it something im doing maybe the clothes i do or what i do? I REALLY LOVE HIM!!! He is talking about having kids and wants me to move in with him my parents dont like him and i really dont know what to do im so confused? Also a couple of weeks ago we were lying on his bed making out i was on my period so i wasnt in the mood and he was telling me to give him head i told him no he told me to stop being a tease and started undoing my jeans telling me to be a gd girl saying daddy wants some then took of my clothes i begged him to get of me but he said i know u want it really took of his clothes and rammed his cock in behind me i waas crying and he pushed me into a pillow after he finished he said i should do what im told next time and not to be a bad girl. i really love him i have no1 else my mum is dead and my dad doesnt care i live with him i cant leave him i love him but how can i make him treat me better plz help !!!!!!!!!!!!Is this all my fault he makes me feel so dirty sometimes but i relly love him i cant not speak to him for a hour with out missing him! i just dont know what to do ? plz help thanks xx im sory for being so graphic i just hate the way he treats me sometimes but he can be so caring im so confused !!!!
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reader, Whatadrag +, writes (19 June 2008):
Sounds like trouble that guy.Dump him.Seriously whats hes doing is wrooong.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2008): This guy is a DEUCHE!! RUN!!! He's using you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2008): your not alone, trust me on that.
The best hing for you to do, is probably get away from him. I understand though you dont want to leave him because you love him. If you think he really does love you then maybe you shoud talk to him about the way he is treating you and how you dont like it. stand up for yourself. but you have to relize what type of person you are dealing with here. and you have to ask yourself "is that who i want to be with?"... but you have to understand he bascially did rape you....can you stay with a person who has forced you to have sex? Be very careful.
Good luck and be safe!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2008): I have empathy with you, you are still very young and hve been through lots. It seems you are very troubled.
I suggest, you and your boyfriend part company for the time being and both you and your boyfriend goes for profesional help urgently.
I sincerely mean that you should get help, even if he does not; get out, move away, go stay with a friend and get counselling, you have major problems and issues to deal with.
Best wishes
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reader, Fairy_Lu +, writes (19 June 2008):
 Im going to say this as nice as possible.
Get rid of him!
What a complete perverted rapist pig i would go to the police then get rid of him you deserve better this is unacceptable thats not love. He doesnt love you he is using you WAKE UP to that fact
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2008): Ah well spotted Batwoman...... What's the truth Ms anonymous, just what kind of tale are you spining and trying to get us to swallow.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2008): Trish, now your being unfair. I've read this lady's story. Things have changed. Now he's raping her from behind and warning her that things will get worse the next time she refuses.
She loves him, she knows he has no respect. He makes her feel dirty but she dosen't want to leave. He'll hurt her worse next time, but it will make no difference because she's "in lurrve..."
Things are different, now he's forcing her to have unwanted sex, and he'll soon start telling his friends how good she is and how obedient she can be. I wonder how soon it will be, before he starts selling her arse and forcing her to play whore to him and his friends. Stay if you want to lady, but this is worse than being alone, your staring in your own personal nightmare, and it's all done with your consent.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (19 June 2008):
 Re-reading the question, there are a few inconsistencies in your tale.
"wants me to move in with him my parents dont like him"
then you go on to say
"i have no1 else my mum is dead and my dad doesnt care i live with him i cant leave him"
So either you live with him or you don't? And your parents don't like him but your mom is dead and your dad doesn't care?
I think you need to get your story straight first. Doesn't ring true to me.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (19 June 2008):
Hi, looks like you posted this question a little while back and had some good advice then.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-older-bf-discusses-our-most-private-issues.html
Maybe you need to move in with a girlfriend or with your dad until you get yourself sorted out. I think that since things haven't changed one little bit, you're in a losing proposition.
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reader, Manximus  +, writes (19 June 2008):
 Whoah, you need to get rid of this guy and find someone who actually deserves you!
I feel as though he sees you as nothing more than a trophy. He has absolutely no right to speak to you or about you in that fashion.
I don't think the age difference is the problem, although I feel that many people will associate the blame to that.
I know many people in age gap relationships and the age is not a factor at all when it comes to love. If anything, it tends to be the younger ones maturity that can cause problems sometimes, but not in this case. You are mentally much more mature than this guy.
He needs to learn some respect before he is capable of loving anyone other than himself.
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reader, SensitiveAtHeart +, writes (19 June 2008):
Whether you love him or not you need to get rid of his trifflin ass!! I don't know how long you've been with him, but I hope you know that it will only get worse. I'm sure you can find someone ten times better than him and someone who will actually respect you!!!
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