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writes:i have a friend, he is 17 and is mentally addicted to weed(so he says) and i want him to stop. he used to talk to me every single day and everything was perfect. we were like bestfriends and i told him everything. i tell him to stop but he doesnt. he knows its stupid and he knows its affecting our friendship. i barely talk to him anymore. i never see him and he expects me to act like everythings fine. but its not. and on top of that he has feelings for me but i love someone else and they both know that. but he says the only thing that would make him quit is if he dated me because he would have everything he needed. i just want my best friend back! what can i do?? please help!:(
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reader, Fifteen +, writes (24 July 2009):
Fifteen is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthankyou. anyone else have any opinions? i'd like a variety of answers. please.
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reader, Red Green 0289 +, writes (24 July 2009):
Welcome to "life with an addict"... Frist, your freind sounds as if he's practicing for the major leauges of addiction here... and that's being manipulative. He tells you that you're the solution to his problem - that's total BS.People who have addications (and they are usually "mental" first, physical second) are folks that have an a-typical response to a certain chemical or process (eating qualifies here). Once they start, they're going to do it... without a fundamental change, they don't have much of a hope.You can't tell an addict to "just stop"- they would if they could, and while it doesn't make any sense to us, they're trapped until they make some changes inside themselves.Sometimes (rarely) an addict can see where they're headed and stop, but usually, they have to loose alot and get into a lot of pain (and inflict a hell of a lot of pain to those who love them) before they can hit bottom and throw in the towel.Just know that he's not ignoring you, he probably just has no idea how to get out of this... the urge to change the way he feels is too strong, and you can'f become the substitute substance that changes how he feels... it just will NOT work...Good luck!
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