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writes:My girlfriend been sad for about a day now, and I've tried many possible way to make her smile and laugh but It just doesn't seem to work. She seem to always be down and she seem to always be sad. The way she talks to me tell me that something in her mind is really bothering her.I've ask her many time's what is bothering her, but she won't tell me, but all she say is that we'll be alright and we should be alright. Right now I just don't know what to do she feel so down, I need a way to help her and cheer her up and make her laugh. I feel like a piece of poop... I can't do anything or seem to want to do anything because of this, it hurts me a lot just seeing her like this.Can anyone help me. What can I do to cheer her up and make her laugh or smile? Any Jokes? Stories? Please help me... Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2010): You sound like a wonderful caring boyfriend! I'm sorry to hear that your girlfriend is feeling sad. I think the best thing you can do is just let her know you are there if she needs you. You have asked her what is wrong, and she doesn't really respond. That must be difficult for you to know what to do. But she might just need some time.
Trying to cheer her up is a nice idea, but sometimes when we are sad, girls don't want somebody to try and make us feel happy, we just want someone to be there and listen to us if we need to talk. So reassure her that you are there if she would like to talk at any point. And if she does talk to you, listen. Try not to cheer her up, or think of solutions to any problem she may be having. You would be amazed at how much better we can feel just by having somebody listen to us!
So try that. But don't feel bad about how your girlfriend is feeling. You are doing as much as you can to help her, but there isn't much else you can do if she won't talk about it. It is not your fault she is sad, so don't feel bad about yourself. You are a very caring boyfriend, and she sounds lucky to know somebody like you. Good luck! x
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (24 February 2010):
You're obviously a great guy, but you're still young and need to learn one fundamental thing about women. They want to be listened to, and they want to know that you're just there. When men are down, jokes and stories and doing things helps. When women feel down, more than anything they just need you to listen and be there without saying anything. All you need to tell her is that you understand she is feeling down, and that any time she wants to talk about it, you'll be there for her. All you need to do is listen.
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