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writes:I'm wondering if anyone here can answer this question for me, or atleast attempt to.I'm wondering what it is about me that attracts a certain type of girl.I tend to attract girls who cheat, fight, party, and are in lvoe with drama. For the most part the girls I attract are from completely different social cliques from my own.Basically I tend to attract those generic bad girl types.I meet most of them at parties, but none of the girls I go with ever have anything in common with me, so my relationships don't seem to last.Any ideas why, or what I can do to try and change this? Reply to this Question
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reader, hello1  +, writes (30 November 2007):
 What about school? any nice girls there? have you got a job? good place to meet people. The reason you get bad girls is cause youre hanging around the messed up ones. Thats it
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2007): Take a look at yourself. The girls you meet at parties are probably saying the same thing-why do I always meet guys that party? Try doing other activities.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell the only time I really hang out with guys and girls at the same time, for the most part anyways, is weekends, which usually means I'll be partying and girls are there.
It's a real bummer, 4 times now this year I've ended up liking girls who led me on, then ended up hooking up with other guys.
Kinda brutal.
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reader, clh91 +, writes (29 November 2007):
 well maybe socialising with guys will get you out more and when you all meet up they might bring some female friends with them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThat's where I run into a dead end though, the only large social groupings I really bother with are parties, I'm not too big on clubs, and the only sports I ever get involved with are self defensive ones (boxing, ju-jit-su, etc) which usually have seperate classes for females.It's a bit of a drag:\
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (29 November 2007):
 I'm sure that it doesn't help that you meet these girls at parties! I think you need to expand your hobbies. Join a team or get involved in theater or take some classes... like sports? Say hello to a girl that you meet at the game.
Meet chicks ANYWHERE but at parties! Because there's really only one type of girl who goes to parties (with a few exceptions, but they're few and far between) - PARTY GIRLS.
Good luck, sweetness.
xxIndia
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2007): You state that these girls are completely different from your social clique but right now there is something attracting you to certain types of female. Next time you meet someone see take time to work out what it is that you really like about them. Do remember your are still young and learning about the opposite sex and that's the exciting part about being 16-17 years old. The right person will come along but enjoy and learn from all the experiences that you have had.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2007): I reckon that other girls are attracted to you too and that these 'bad girl' types tend to show it more obviously so you end up thinking that they are the only girls that find you attractive. - just one theory!
Why don't you try waiting to really get to know some girls and make sure you really like them...and they really like you before getting into a relationship. Maybe that might make it last longer??
Whatever you do, don't change yourself, or the way you act. Keep your own identity - you will find someone who loves you and stays with you exactly as you are now.
Keep having fun x x x
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reader, Cupiedet +, writes (29 November 2007):
 heya, try to get to know the girl better
u may think she is hot but do yu u like her in a way tht is special to u
some girls only wanr ro look cool with guys on their arm
basically get to know her better by askin her what she likes
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reader, clh91 +, writes (29 November 2007):
well you meet the more bad girls types because you meet them at parties.plain and simple more bad girls go partying than not.also the typical party-goers fight, party, cheat etc.maybe try socialising at work or college or school or wherever you go to.or try going to different venues like join clubs if there's any you like.don't always go for the girls that go to parties.hope i helped :)xxxx
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