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writes:hi am 15 and i have been having a hard time at school a girl has spreaded a rumor about me, the rumor is that am a lesbain it was ages ago but ever since then everyone has been shouting names at me like lesbo lesbain it really upsets me my mum and dad tell me to ignore it but it hurts so bad some nights i cry for hours, to be really honest i have started liking girls in a differnt way, but i hate going to school now i got called names everyday as i through the corridor all i want is to scream out am bisexual so what are you happy now that i have admitted it but i no i cant because things will get worst if i do just let it all out but on the otherhand i dont no if its the best thing to do to lock it all up inside if you have any suggestions for me please do it would be really helpful :) x ps i have talked to my guidance teachers but they have done nothing about it ! Reply to this Question
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reader, Drat001 +, writes (11 January 2011):
I know this is a late answer, but hopefully you'll read this.What you are experiencing is bullying, and what you need to do is NOT just walk away. You need to talk with your guidance counselor about this, and tell them that you want it to stop. Most schools have policies against bullying, and some places it's illegal for them. If you know, or if your parents know the contact information of these kids who are bullying you, your dad should call their parents and tell the parents that they have two choices: 1) either they do something to stop their children from harassing you, or 2) he is going to talk with the school principal or even the police and have them deal with it, which would involve being suspended, a note going into their permanent school record, and even possible arrest and criminal charges being filed.Don't walk away from bullies. Don't stand up to bullies by shouting things back at them. Stop bullying by having bullies punnished. If people know there is real, swift and severel punnishment for bullying, they will think twice before calling you an anti-gay slur again.
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reader, Nougatxxx +, writes (31 October 2009):
Nougatxxx is verified as being by the original poster of the question Hey Quick Note About The Advice And What I Have Done About It, I Have Told My Mum And Dad And They Said Its Nothing To Be Ashamed Of And That How Can They Tell Am A Lesbain When I Dont Even No Myself. I Have Tried My Hardest To Igore Thenm And The Name Calling Is Started To Stop :)
You All Gave Me Good Advice And You Are All So Nice Unlike The People At School Thanks Agian Guys :D
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reader, openmind  +, writes (30 October 2009):
okie doke lovie here are two things to consider first of all you are very popular to have people taking time to make YOU the topic of conversation and second of if you are bi then why not shout it out because calling you something like bi or lesbo shouldnt hurt because it is true or half true so why give a shit!! I call myself a homo all the time close friends say to me hello lesbian and i say HI! Its me and they know it so what is left to make fun of so next time someone says to you hey lesbo or she is a lesbian walk up to her and say word for word--- "Yes i am a lesbian and you are a pathetic little cunt arent we blessed to live in a world where we can be our true selves?!!" Dont be afraid girl you own this GOOD LUCK!!!
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reader, SmithiieXoxO +, writes (29 October 2009):
 aww honey,, this rubbish your putting up with from these girls is seriously not acceptable. you cant just take it ,, i know you say youve told someone but uu need to get the school more involved ,, likee,, more higher up teachers maybe the head ?? these girls are real bitches and might even be jealous of you in the way that you have come out and are proud of who you really are. something that they maybe could never do as they are too insecure about themselves. always be yourself and dont hide anything,, because if you werent bisexual then you wouldnt be yourslef,, now ,, would you ?
hope this helps honey (: xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2009): I am sorry you are experiencing bullying in school.
I think it would be best to just walk away and don't give a response to the name calling because the more you draw attention or react then you are just giving the bully some power over you and they are getting what they want a reaction out of you.
If you can act like you don't even care it will most likely stop.
That said, if it doesn't and you have tried that you may want to speak to your school counselor for some help or even your coach if you are involved in sports of any kind. Often teachers and coaches can get involved without the bully even knowing you told.
By all means try to not focus so much on the bullying, find your true friends and hang out and have some fun with them, don't let it eat at you, it isn't nice at all what they are doing. It really is a cowardly act and a lot of followers of bullys are just as confused and scared as you are. If you can enlist a friend to stand up for you in front of them, that can help too....bullying can't happen if other kids don't tolerate it.
Take care and keep us posted about how it goes for you.
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reader, tux +, writes (29 October 2009):
 If your guidance counselors are not doing anything about, they are failing you as authority figures.. Calling someone or pointing out one's sexual preference whether it is true or not is what a lot of places would consider sexual harrassment.
As far as things like that go.. kids can be cruel.. I dealt with it as well growing up, but for different reasons... but well it is hard to deal with, because if you ignore it, it builds up and tears at you. if you react to it then you end up getting in trouble.. Perhaps you need to go higher up than your guidance counselors and talk to your principal about it. you do not even have to tell him you might be bi-sexual.. you can just say that kids are spreading rumors around and saying that you are.
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reader, clownzyall +, writes (29 October 2009):
 They pick on you, because it a mean nickname- the kind simply made up because it isn't true (If you are telling people you are straight than I'm sure most believe that, they just know it bothers you). My advice? I doubt nothing would shut them up better if you just simply proclaimed it. "I'm bisexual, I don't care who knows, and I'm proud of it. You aren't ashamed to be pricks, and I'm not ashamed to be gayyyyy!" Myself? I'd do it in the lunch room. Get yourself a rainbow bracelet and the next girl to call you a lezbo, ask her why she wants to know. The next guy? Tell him he's jealous cause you get more girls.
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