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*ennystillwandering
writes:I am pregnant for twelve weeks now, my husband is chatting on the internet with a married women who have a baby already. They talk about everything which makes me really jealous. No matter is day or night, my husband will wait for this women on line. It looks like talking with this women gets most of my husband's attentions and make him happy. I hate to see this. What should I do to make him not to chat with this women again? It is so unfair that women get pregnant and need to worry her husband whether he is cheating on her or not?
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reader, Caring Aunty A  +, writes (30 June 2013):
 I often wonder if we sat next to our spouse while they are talking online; what would happen. Are there any secrets or misbehaviour going on?Why not make a cup of tea for two and casually sit next to him when he’s in conversation with this married woman and see what he does… Say that you’d like to ask this lady a question since she already has a baby… She might be able to help with your pregnancy…Now if he does not allow you to type or skype your question to her, then ask him to do so. ASK; what was her husband like when she was pregnant; did he neglect her by chatting with other women online!? How did she feel or overcome this ‘if’ it was going on? Perhaps she can help me understand why you keep talking to her and whether I and our unborn baby have something to be concerned about!?If he doesn’t stop from here; he is deliberately being disrespectful and needs to seriously revisit his marital vows!Take Care – CAA
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2013): "What should I do to make him not to chat with this women again?"
Nothing you can do to "make" hubby do anything he would not be inclined to do otherwise. If he wants to continue chatting with this woman, then he will find a way.
"It is so unfair that women get pregnant and need to worry her husband whether he is cheating on her or not?"
I suspect the reason(s) hubby is chatting with another woman go far beyond your getting pregnant. Your pregnancy isn't the problem here, your marriage is.
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (29 June 2013):
 At 12 weeks, there isn't much that you're showing. It's also not an assumption that a man loses interest in his partner once she gets pregnant. In my own case, I *felt* unattractive the more pregnant I got, but my husband surprisingly wouldn't leave me alone even when I got to 8-9 months and felt like an anaconda who swallowed an elephant.
This is about your husband being disloyal to you if he's talking about things with this other woman that he shouldn't. You need to talk to him and tell him that he is alienating affection from you by spending so much time with this married woman. Look him in the eye and ask him if there is any conversation, any thing said that he wouldn't say to her in front of either you or her husband.
Just because you're pregnant doesn't mean you're automatically less attractive. Your hormones are going to do crazy things with you as you already know. You are in no less position to level with your husband as you were before you got pregnant. You are the mother of his child, and you deserve his complete attention and his complete affection. If he's not willing to listen to reason, then counseling is a good idea. It's possible that this is a symptom of his being overwhelmed by what's about to happen.
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