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writes:From about age 9 until I was 15 my sister (13 months older) and I would have sex play. It started off as just playing doctor and looking at each other, but progressed as we got older. We never had intercourse, but there were several instances of mutual masturbation, including me penetrating her with my finger and one time I can remember where I performed light oral sex on her.I know sex play with siblings can be very common, but I also feel like this went beyond what is considered normal. At the end of the day, I feel ok about everything that happened. I am now now married, as is she and neither of us seem to have any emotional scars from it. It ended in a gradual way and we haven't talked about it since. I guess I'm just wondering if this has happened to anyone else or what people's opinions of this is.Thank you
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reader, kleinie  +, writes (21 December 2009):
Thats discusting and wrong. Incest, no matter how far it got.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2009): What you and your sister did happens a lot. A lot of brother-sister siblings have done more. For example, I have read posts from girls who said they learned how to give handjobs and blowjobs by practicing on their brother's penis. They said the reason they did it was so that when they got a boyfriend, they'd know what to do. Sometimes it happened when they accidentally walked in on their brother masturbating, and they asked if they could stay and watch, and they started asking him questions about it. Eventually, it led to the sister either jacking or sucking off her brother, and many times more than just once. Some girls said they went to their brother and just flat out asked him if he would show her how to give a handjob or a blowjob. Most of the girls said they did this because their brother was the only guy they could trust to talk to about this, and they said experience was helpful to them and gave them confidence for the first time they performed oral sex on a guy, and they felt no guilt or shame about having the experience. In all of the posts I've read, the girls said they were able to move on to other guys without any problems. So what you and your sister did with each other happens between a lot of opposite-sex siblings.If you google "do girls practice oral sex on their brothers" (be sure and use the quote marks), you'll find a post that talks about this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2009): its wrong
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reader, dorothy2342 +, writes (12 December 2009):
 At some point you knew what you were doing was wrong, but I wonder what your home was like, were there other siblings, did you have both parents and were they walking around with their head up their butt. They should have been aware what was going on and handled it. I know about sexual curosity playing Dr. and such, but ya'll went past that. I am glad you have moved passed what happened, but don't kid yourself about the scars. Have you discussed it with your wife or has your sister discussed it with her husband? I hope you have and it's not a dirty little secret between you. Please don't think it is normal or it's o.k., it's not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2009): If you are biological siblings ABSOLUTELY NO! You must pull away from each other. There was something wrong in your childhood to bring you two together sexually. Step away.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2009): I have a similar past with my brother - it gave us both guilt for years afterwards when we realised what we had done but it hasn't messed us up too much. Still close and i love him very much - i don't think you did anything wrong or anything you should be ashamed of - its just one of those things, try not to let it beat you up. And remember, what is normal - who's to judge, its your life therefore if you are happy healthy individuals then there was no harm in it. It is only society that tells us different so ignore them :)
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (10 December 2009):
well, how would you feel if your own children were to engage in sex play? Would you find it normal? Although its fairly common, it is unacceptable because of the kinship relationship. This shows a dysfunctional home where boundaries have not been defined and can be very dangerous emotionally. But its good that you have come out of it unscathed. The danger comes when you start to write off this behaviour as normal because you may end up passing on this dysfunctional behaviour to your children.
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