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writes: I have recently started uni. I have to stay away from home through the week. I go home at weekends and usually see my family and boyfriend (we have been together for over a year). He has basically told me that I have to give up the sport I play on a Saturday so he can see me, or our relationship will have to end. All of my friends play the sport and I love playing as well. I am afraid I will lose contact with my friends if I stop playing, but I don't want to lose my boyfriend either....any advice? Reply to this Question
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reader, beenthere +, writes (4 February 2006):
don't give up your sport. i used to do drama. i was in theatre companies for about 13 years. then, when my partner and i had been together for a few months, he expected me to give it up so we could spend more time together. i really regret my decision now as, firstly, it means that i now have nothing but my kids and don't do anything just for me. and, secondly, he has chosen not to spend much time with me anymore anyway. your bf shouldn't ask you to choose. i doubt he'd give up a lads night out or anything for you
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2006): This a no-brainer. You don't give up your sports, interests, hobbies, etc just because you have a bf who wants to spend 'that' day with you. Can he not come to you and spend the day with you and your friends, watching you play..going out 'post-game'afterwards? He sounds a bit controlling, and immature and any guy who asks you to give up the things you love, does not have your best interests at heart. Time for you and him to have a talk and I think you had better re-evaluate this relationship. Take care and good luck
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