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writes:Hello! I've recently got back together with my boyfriend after i dumped him. I dumped him because of family related problems which made me push him away. My boyfriend felt that in our relationship he/ we had become selfish( not seeing friends etc). This i accepted and agreed. But how can i tell if i've hurt him so much that he just wants his friends and not me anymore? When he's with me, he is fragile, his moods are like a yo-yo. So he can be very lovey-dovey( kissing me passionately) or just worried that i don't love him but apparently he said that he believes i do now by my recent actions. Is it also possible he is only after sex even if he has come back to me? What are the main signs that he is only looking for sex? Thank you for reading :)
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reader, Risingfromashes  +, writes (23 January 2010):
Judging by his emotions he still needs time to evaluate whether you truly care and if he's willing to risk being pushed aside. Maybe he's not sure if he does like you like that anymore, but it seems like he's trying to figure it out without losing you. How long were you two separated? He won't want to talk about the relationship if he just wants sex and if it seems like his goal everytime he's with you is about getting physical. Does he tell his friends/family about you? Do you two do anything with other people? Maybe he thinks you wanted more sex before and now is self-concious about not being good enough. If you passionately love someone it can be difficult to resist them, but you also will be curious about their feelings and thoughts. You just have to be careful and decide if you think he's sincere or not if he does act interested. People can be master minipulators esspecially when it comes to sex and our primal instincts. You should really ask yourself if you trust him and if it's worth it to risk him using you because it is possible. Does he avoid romance? Even being romantic can be a ploy, you just must go with your gut in this one and who he is to you. It seems like you believe he's a genuine good guy buy feel guilty for ending it before and are worried it's time for payback. He has no reason to be vengeful twords you but if we the type of guy to use any woman then he's not ready for a relationship, and isn't worth your time. Take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2010): well,,,,, you already sent him a very clear message he was not as important to you as your "family related problems"...
Whatever the "problems" were (you failed to say btw.. any clues to his behavior there??) he knows he is expendable.
How should he act ?? Like everything is just okie dokie??
(ever think he feels like just a booty call himself??)
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