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writes: heyim 17 and a virgin and i have been looking into losing my virginty, but whats with the emotional consequence that people keep bringing up, once iv had sex? i do see how it would effect me...advice please! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2007): emotional concequences of losing your virginity are that you may feel used, and dumb (if not with the right person). I have a friend who lost her virginity to a guy shes been dating for almost 2 years and she regrets it.It depends on who it is and if you are truly in love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2006): I’m a 19 yr old virgin and I understand exactly where your coming from I’ve had opportunities to lose my virginity but I’m just waiting for the right girl preferable a virgin. Because I don’t want to feel sort of dirty afterwards and regret it, and want us to share some think new and special, hopefully I’ll find her soon.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2006): And wait...wait for someone who will go to the end of the world for you, just so you won't get sad. And if he pressures you - you can forget him. I've been with my girl for a year almost (this month is going to be first year) im still a virgin but I'm waiting for her to be ready - I'd never pressure her.
You see, the thing is that if the partners want to do the best for each other - then it's love. If they do it for their own pleasure, call it fucking.
When you get together with someone - you should test them with this shit. Go out with them for a while, and when you tell them that you're not ready, and that they should wait. If they don't wait then they never loved you.
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (9 November 2006):
 "Looking into losing my virginity"... I certainly hope that doesn't mean that you're seeking out some guy to have sex with. First and foremost, sex is going to be the best with someone you care about. I'll bet 95% of people would tell you that the best sex is with someone you've been with for a long time who you feel super comfortable with.
I waited until I was 19, and I'm glad I did. I found a guy who was genuine and compassionate, and I hope you can find the same for yourself.
I always thought that people who told me sex was "really emotional" were kind of old fashioned, but it's no joke. You're allowing someone into a place that NO ONE has touched, that is one of your most intimate spots at that. They're going to be IN you, be a PART of you.
I always have compared virginity to the Batmobile. Let's say that you are the sole owner of the Batmobile (your virginity) and you're looking to sell it (don't actually SELL yourself. It's a metaphor, remember?). You're not just going to give the Batmobile to any loser on the street. It's the freakin' BATMOBILE. You want to give it to someone who's going to take care of it... be nice to it... wax it and change the oil...
So before you let a guy behind the wheel, you should trust him enough to drive the car - catch my drift?
I hope your first time is truly special and without any regrets.
Have fun, sweetness.
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India
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reader, Itmustbesaid +, writes (8 November 2006):
Most of the time when someone has sex for the first time it is with someone they love. The feelings of sharing yourself with your partner for the first time and giving them something that you have given to no one else is often overwhelming. Add someone who just wants to have sex with you and not respect your gift of your virginity into the picture and many problems can occur.
Often people associate sex with love and can't distiguish the two. Nowadays, people have sex for sex and not for love and that is ok if both parties can handle that but most people at 17 are not mature enough to handle losing their virginity and then there partner soon after. You may feel cheated and incomplete, don't look so hard to lose your virginity, that is something that is very special to you and should be given to someone that will respect you and love you for it. If you do it to soon, you may regret it later when you really want to share yourself with your partner. Remember you can only lose your virginity once.
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