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writes:I'm a South African who has been dating a German guy for almost a year. We've lived together for almost a year as well. We both live in Dubai. Next week we are going to Germany for a month-long vacation and I am also meeting his parents for the first time. We will also be staying at his parents place for most of that time and he has already told me we will be sharing the same bedroom. We've planned this vacation for about 4 months and I am only now starting to get really nervous. He is my first serious boyfriend and hopefully will be my last, and I've never done the 'meet-the-parents' thing. I need serious help. I've read so many forums and I have an idea of what I'm supposed to wear (for the first day), but since we're going to be staying for a long time, what are the do's and don't's...please help me..I'm so lost Reply to this Question
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reader, old-spinstah  +, writes (26 August 2009):
At least you know that you and his parents already have one thing in common - you think their son is wonderful! Make sure you tell them that - how kind/fun/caring/etc he is and that they must be very proud.Listen to their stories about him and look at any baby photos etc they want to show you - even if your boyfriend is cringing and trying to change the subject!
Try to find out a little about them before you go - you probably know a lot already and these little snippets of info might help you start conversations with them. For example - has his Dad just decorated the house? - make sure you admire it. Does Mum love cooking? - congratulate her on a dish and ask her how she makes it. If there's a family pet or a new grandchild or something - be enthusiastic. People generally love talking about themselves and their families/achievements/etc so be a really good listener.
Becasue you're staying for a month, try your best to be the perfect houseguest. You might want to ask your b/f what the "family routine" is - do they wake early or sleep late, do they say grace before meals, etc.
Always offer to help around the house. Respect the fact that occasionally this will be declined so don't push it too hard. But continue to offer help, (even if your b/f doesn't) at least once a day - you'll probably find that initially they will decline help around the house but gratefully accept it once they know you better! Make sure that you spend some quality time getting to know them but give them space as well - plan lots of activities out (or even stay elsewhere for a couple of nights) to give them a break and some time together.
And a couple of things NOT to do (which I'm sure you won't) Don't get so drunk you fall over/vomit/argue etc
Don't let them hear the two of you having sex.
I'm sure you're going to have a lovely time
xx
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