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writes:Blegh..Look:I'm sure I'm just "asking" to be mocked here, but the thing is..I was with a guy for a good while (the only guy I've ever been with). We've been broken up for a long while (about two years)and I've started dating a really good friend. We're doing really well together..with one hitch: I'm worried I'm loose.So we don't/haven't had sex. I understand that if someone loves you, it's not overly important. But it's important to me (probably more then him since he knows about my worry and says he doesn't care..Ugh!) I've been searching and see a lot about kegels..which I'm going to do. But I want to do as much as I can to get back as tight as I can. I've searched up creams and such, but I want to try things I can actually buy, or things people KNOW work..Does anyone have/know of any alternative herbs/creams/mixtures/creams that work?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2011): You must have a reason for thinking you are loose, or will be percieved as loose. Why? Was your ex huge? Because that won't matter. My ex was with a guy who was enormous and she is very tight. Is your BF small? It shouldn't matter because your vagina will accomodate his size.Tightness in vaginas is overrated in mhy opinion. Not every guy likes the squeezing sensation. I prefer the gliding sensation. An overly tight vagina resists penetrative movement and can actually make me softer because the tightness squeezes it so much. Stop worrying.
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reader, celtic_tiger  +, writes (6 March 2011):
 Glad we could help :)
But seriously, don't worry! you are fine just the way you are!
Tiger x
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reader, PinkSockies +, writes (4 March 2011):
PinkSockies is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell;
Definitely good not to be laughed at on this(Had NO idea where to go with these kinds of questions);And thank you guys for the good replies;Made me feel kind've silly;I would suppose it's the innsecurities coming into play..Last night I'd had a rather big "cry" fit over it checking all over the internet hoping to find something to at least help me along;Seeing these responses made me grin.-I guess it's simply I take sex very seriously to a point(Had I not been with the guy for a long while;and honestly thought we were going to be together..As fresh teenage girls often do;I'd never have slept with my ex;And I'd hate for the guy I'm with now to find me...Lacking?)..As for others;No I don't use toys..Never have;Always worrying about the tightness factor,lol..I know where to go when I have questions now I would suppose..You guys are the best.(Thanks a lot)
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (3 March 2011):
 Kegels is the way to go.
Not to tighten it up (I seriously doubt you are loose at your age anyhow) but to keep it "fit". Just like any other muscle ;)
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (3 March 2011):
 No, I don't know of any creams or pills or lotions. I would be suspect of any products making any such claims. It sounds to me as though you are worrying about something that hasn't actually presented as a problem.
My suggestion is to take this one off your list of worries. If the thought or worry is becoming a problem, as in, it is interfering with establishing normal intimacy, I would say that it's the thought that's the problem, not your vaginal capacity. If it's the thinking that's the problem, then you need to see a different kind of specialist.
Go talk to your GYN and have a frank discussion with her about your fears and concerns. Go from there with her recommendations.
Good luck.
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reader, Aunty Honest +, writes (3 March 2011):
 I'd have to agree with Tiger, I'm sure you have nothing to worry about. And not having sex for 2 years will have definately done the trick! However, if you are still concered you can do kegel excercises without that sinister looking tool! All you have to do is clench your muscles (as you would if you were trying not to go the toilet) and unclench them. Doing this 10-20 times a couple of times a week will make a real difference-not that you need it-it's also a good way to prevent incontinence later in life so not a bad habit to get into!
Hope that helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2011): If you haven't been using really big vibrators in the time you and your ex have been broken up, then I am sure you won't be too loose! I worried about this a lot after i broke up with my ex, and this was my trick... (sorry this is a little graphic!)
If i wanted to get off, I would just use my clit, and not put anything inside me, when I wasnt having sex with a guy... and all the guys Ive been with since my ex and I split (admittedly not that many, but they all have a lot more experience of different people than me....) said I was the tightest they have been with in a really long time, one said I was tighter than the virgins hes slept with... so maybe try that? Also, it makes being with a guy a lot more exciting and satisfying! :D Hope this helps, its just an idea...!
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reader, celtic_tiger +, writes (3 March 2011):
You are only 18-21. I very much doubt you are 'loose'!If you had given birth to 3 or 4 kids, or been having rampant sex with some overly large objects every day for the last 20 years then you may have some worries but as you have not and havent had sex for 2 years, I think you are safe. Your boyfriend will not notice anything. Stop worrying, you are just fine the way you are. Tiger x
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