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male
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41-50,
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writes:Hi all,We been together 4.5 years in a distance relationship.We got engaged and we planned a wedding next year.I noticed lately she has been talking much about the distance and told her my plan was the original, me going there.Unfortunately when we had fights, I tended to break up with her for a couple of hours but we always managed to sort it.A month ago we had a fight and told her to let me be a few hours to clear my head, when I called her back she said she needed time.She said she believes she is suffering with depression and that she is not sure for our future.We decided to meet abroad and talk for a week.She came for Valentines and we had a great time together, she was in tears saying she will always love me but she was so unsure of the future.The 2nd day she woke me up to let me know she has changed her ticket home and her fight was going in a few hours.I was shocked, how could she do that?She said it was better than waiting for a week which would have been harder as I was so nice to her.When she got to the airport she called me crying like anything.I told her we would never see each other again and told her this relationship leads nowhere for her... just to say that she is disappointed that I took this decision.She later called me from home to say we should go our own ways but she still loves me but needs time to find herself.She said she is not interested in another guy but she does not expect me to wait for her as she is unsure of the outcome or how long she needs to find herself.I made it clear that if she sleeps with another guy I don't want her back.Again she said she is not interested in another but I know at the long run she will.She even emailed my mother saying she feels empty and shocked and she still loves me but many situations took place that make a dark cloud inside her.Three nights ago we both cried over the phone for a half an hour and then I emailed to her the first email she send me.She texted me that she was in tears but has not changed her decision and i should not worry about other guys .Its been 1.5 months and today she asked to let her go but our engagement was the happiest day of her life.That brought me so much pain because she was like this once in the past but we did not break up, she was just feeling down.We've been very bad to each other these last 3 days but we both said sorry about everything.I have sent flowers,letters , told her i will change......Can you guys give an advice as I want to sort it with her and be together.
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reader, 69ways +, writes (3 March 2011):
thanks but now she turned cold and i am desperate
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