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writes:I was talking to this guy for about a week and some days. We hung out twice but we would text each other everyday and he would always say nice things to me. One day he wanted to hang with me. For the 1st time I was going to go to his house. I called to tell him to go ahead and text me his address and he said okay. 30 minutes went by no text from him. So I called...no answer. About 15 minutes later I called again and it sounded like he picked up the phone then hung up. It was his cell phone so all he needed to was push the ignore button instead of picking up to hang up. Was that my hint or something?? Anyways, after that I was pissed..he stood me up. I'm trying to understand why he wanted to hang out then turn around and stand me up?? If he didn't feel like hanging anymore...why couldn't he just say so?? It's been 4 days and I haven't heard from him. So if he wasn't interested anymore why couldn't he be man enough to tell me?? I've been nothing but respectful, honest and sweet to him so I feel I didn't deserve such disrespect.Btw I deleted his number and deleted him from my Facebook but I sent him a message on Facebook asking him Why. And he hasn't replied back.I would like for the guys and women that have been through this to please tell me some reasons to why this would happen. I really would appreciate it!! Thank You!!!
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reader, bumbling_blonde  +, writes (22 December 2010):
Aw hun, the exact same thing happened to me a month or so ago. i gave my crush my number and he was texting me first for around 3 or 4 days, seemed really keen and interested then as soon as I sent him the first text a few days later - no reply!! And that was at the start of November! I was like you too, didn't have a clue why (and still don't really!) and just felt so confused! I think it's the thrill of the chase with some men, he's obviously very immature, ignorant and not worth your time, forget about him and find someone who deserves to spend time with you x
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2010): He was too much of a coward to tell you what he wanted so he chose to ignore you instead. Move on.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (5 December 2010):
 Sweetheart,don't worry, everybody has gone through something like this, you are by no means an exception. Just give a look at DC posts and you'll see.
Why ? Human nature. Man ( and woman too ) is selfish and self protective.
This guy probably was simply not that into you and he changed his mind last minute. Or, he just enjoyed the thrill of the chase and once you said yes it was a downer ( yes, there are people like that ). Or, he was texting multiple girls and the had a better offer that day. Whatever was, he acted as a a..hole and he knows it.
Now, some people like to act as an a..hole but don't like
to deal with the consequences of their actions. He did not want to have to deal with your disappointment or annoyance, he did not want to be criticized for misleading you, and did not want the embarassment of having to explain you that he changed his mind about you because of such and such. So he chose the easy way out - going into hiding.
I can't even promise you that something like this won't happen anymore- it's rather common, most people simply hates to be caught in the wrong. Maybe your only defence next time is to make sure you know the person a bit better before getting emotionally ( and most of all , physically !) closer.
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reader, xanthic +, writes (5 December 2010):
 For some, it's easier to take the immature route and ignore a person rather than confront the issue.
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