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writes:Hello,I have a suspicision that my bf did cheat. He may be doing it still (I doubt it). But something happened and/or he tried.Now I have decided to move forward because I dont have any solid proof and I like to give him the benefit of the doubt.I also dont want to be naive. Is there any tips on what to keep my eyes open for or little things that I can do that could help me?Thank you Reply to this Question
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reader, Red Green 0289  +, writes (16 November 2009):
Having to "work" more (but has no more $$$), suddenly hanging with his (guy) friends... but you can't get hold of him on his phone like you used to...Guarding the cell phone, short calls, "can't talk now..", cleaning himself up before he gets close to you, geneal sense of paranoia...
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reader, lovejunkie +, writes (16 November 2009):
 Well you don't say how long you've been together or if your b/f considers your relationship to be "exclusive". Both important factors. As for the signs, yes sometimes its the way he guards his phone, but it's usually other things like; if he says he's going to be somewhere but when you check he's not there. (You can check without letting him know you're checking)....It can be other things, like how dresses, if he suddenly takes more interest in his appearance, wears cologne or changes his hair style. If he takes a shower at your place you may be able to check his pockets and wallet for business cards from females, or phone numbers written on napkins; all clues that he's hooking up with other women behind your back. Then again, we women do tend to be a bit paranoid at times. He may really be working late; and if he's spending most his free time with you and doesn't seem distracted or distant, it's probably nothing. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHello,
(I am the one that asked the question). What made me suspect him in the first place was texts that I found from a couple of girls. Thay were not talking as friends would.
And he has always guarded his phone since I have known him (4 yrs) well he has it always on him and never leaves it anywhere.
He has two jobs ever since I have known him. So technicially he could easily say he is working.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (15 November 2009):
He will suddenly guard his phone more, he'll have less time for you, he'll be more secretive about what he's been upto and such. What is it that made you suspect in the first place?
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