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writes:Okay guys I will try not to appear very pathetic on here even though right now I am very much feeling like it.First off I know my flag is American but I am not from there.So...here's my situation. I live in this town and no matter how much I go out,I haven't met any guy. Why? Because guys won't talk to girls over here. I've been to many countries in my life and only in this one I happen to face these problems(and its also my home country so it sucks)...however there are two guys I am interested in. Here's the thing.1) Andrew - I met him through a mutual friend. He lives in my parents town which is 4 hours away from where I currently live. I was visiting my parents for 2 weeks and I went out with him,our mutual friend,his girlfriend etc. I've had a FANTASTIC time with him. He constatly made me laugh and vice versa. He did try to kiss me once but I told him I wanted things slow. (He didnt ask me out on a date,but he did ask me out for a coffee.) The next day after that coffee,i returned here.He was texting me,but it's been some days now that he hasnt and i didnt want to initiate any text because I wanted him to be the "cherry" on the "cake". Not the "cake" itself. I hope you are following me here.I like the dude a lot,its just that how are we going to get to know each other if we can't date? He works 6 days a week so its not like he can come see me all the time. His sister goes to a university where I live though and she has an apartment.He comes visit her sometimes.I am going home for christmas and I am going to see him.Who knows what will happen?.....2. The second guy is a guy I was talking to online. I always considered him to be educated but i wasnt into him.Until I met him.He lives in the country next to mine ( 10 hours from my city)....and came with his friends to visit.Needless to say,the chemistry was amazing.He went back to his country and since then we've been talking a lot more. My parents said we're going to go to his city to celebrate the new years (they dont know anything about him,his city is just a hot spot)....So I am seeing him around Dec 31. Last time we were talking online he said "so you'll come in january,then ill come in february,ull come in march and this will continue" i said "why?" he said "its just an offer..."....lol,I feel that in the back of his mind hes considering something more than an "internet acquaintance".I am upset that both guys live far from me. I am thinking I should just have fun with both,no strings attached....however,I am sick of being on my own.And it sucks how its very unlikely i meet anyone i like in my town. (My friends used to say I was prejudiced about this,but now that they moved here for college they cant help but admit i was right and they hate how no guy approaches a woman down here)Any help?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for your answer :)I guess I'll let my heart decide.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (7 December 2010):
 Well who do you think will make you happier? You cannot base this on logic, it has to be from the heart on some level. Logically it would be Andrew since he is clearly devoted to the girls he dates and he is only 6 hours away whilst that other guy is 10 hours away. Andrew lives in your parent's city whilst the second guy lives in a city you have no affiliation with.
That is logic but, who knows. Meet the both of them and then let your own heart decide.
I hope that helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionbtw let me add that our mutual friend said "Why don't you start a relationship with Andrew? you guys have an amazing time everytime you see each other!"
I said "I dont know...Its the distance"
He said "He had a girl who lived 6 hours from where he lives...and he was the one trying to make it work"
I am not sure I want an LDR though. It's a lot of work.
as for the guy # 2, I am talking to him more. (we talk online) and we are more compatible in a sense that we're both in college,we can discuss more serious matters,he's interested in my countrys political history etc).....
although how can i really know,when i havent spent much time with neither of them? and now that im going home for christmas and i'm gonna see andrew.....I just dont know what will go on? And then for new years I'm seeing the other dude?
This isnt a matter of me feeling guilty or anything,it's an overall mess!
thanks for your time :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionbtw let me add that our mutual friend said "Why don't you start a relationship with Andrew? you guys have an amazing time everytime you see each other!"
I said "I dont know...Its the distance"
He said "He had a girl who lived 6 hours from where he lives...and he was the one trying to make it work"
I am not sure I want an LDR though. It's a lot of work.
as for the guy # 2, I am talking to him more. (we talk online) and we are more compatible in a sense that we're both in college,we can discuss more serious matters,he's interested in my countrys political history etc).....
although how can i really know,when i havent spent much time with neither of them? and now that im going home for christmas and i'm gonna see andrew.....I just dont know what will go on? And then for new years I'm seeing the other dude?
This isnt a matter of me feeling guilty or anything,it's an overall mess!
thanks for your time :)
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