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writes:Hi guys. Thanks for reading my post. Hope you guys can help me. Well, straight to the point.I had sex with my girlfriend. The last time when we did that was last week. I know by doing that, I have a risk impregnating my girlfriend since it was unprotected. Things were going really great for both of us until the point when she hanged out with her friends who's pregnant. She was very scared and freaking out so badly until we broke into a fight which was also last week.She was very angry with me and even said that i'm a useless boyfriend because she said i'm not being caring, supportive and not being there when she needs me. The thing is, I called her almost everyday asking how is she doing and some other stuffs. I even ask constantly about her family because recently, her family is not in good condition. I always say that i'm gonna be there for her even if she gets pregnant. She IS my everything. I even say I won't let her do this alone meaning i would never ever leave her even on the bad times.But all she says are "Those are just words. It doesn't mean anything." I'm really confused of what she said. I did everything I could by comforting her like "it's going to be alright". She even asked me to leave. I out rightly disagree with her because that won't make anything better.Can you guys help me out? What does she mean by supporting her? I tried to be empathic. But that doesn't seem to work. I'm very confused and devastated because she IS my life and I don't wanna ever ever lose her. I love her so much. Reply to this Question
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reader, Lola1  +, writes (24 June 2010):
 CaringGuy is a bright man and he is correct.
If this is one of those situations, however, where his scenario does not match yours, you can always ask how you can be more supportive to her.
She's young and apparently going through a lot, so she may feel this is "cheating"; that if you loved her enough, you'd know what to do. That is silly, of course, and puts you on an impossible pedestal - how great you would have to be that your love alone could figure out what is in her mind.
Be patient, be gentle and show her your willingness to be supportive. As CaringGuy says, sometimes we just want to pound our fists on your chests and have you hold us and tell us you love us and everything will be ok, because you are strong enough to handle our temper tantrums.
It’s dumb, I know, but you guys like Nascar, the Three Stooges and violent sports, so look who's talking. :P
Good luck.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (24 June 2010):
A few months ago, I had an argument with my girlfriend. Or, rather she had an argument with me. It was pretty much the same as you. One minute, it was all okay and she was talking about houses. The next she was having a go at me because apparently I wasn't supporting her. Of course, I didn't see it coming at all and ended up silently dumbfounded. Afterwards, she suddenly burst into tears and said she was sorry. It turned out I'd done nothing wrong, but that she'd had a very hard time at work lately and ended up venting her frustration at me because she knew I loved her enough to take it. That's what happens. You'll find that there are mostly external factors that are getting to your girlfriend right now, most likely the unprotected sex thing. So it's a case of riding the storm and just being there as you are. What does she mean by supporting her? Ask her. She may have many different ideas to us. Only she knows what she needs. And for God's sake use protection next time as well.
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