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writes:hello alli dont know what to do well you see getting married in 2weeks and hubby us having a weekend getaway batchelors party. and i dont like the idea of having strippers ect.. dancing naked and entertaining him. i dont know if i want party and what am i gonna do for the whole weekend alone? i really want him to come home but i know he wont and he keeps telling me we need to meet new people i just need to go where he goes. i mean he doens give any attention to me at all. and when there is other women he speeks with them with respect its like,he keeps staring at other women and if i dont like a girl/girlz he tells me i never like any womens and he is close friends with some but tells me stop worrying he isnt getting married to them. but he likes avoid me totally when other chicks is there at a bash/party/birthday party or work stuff i feel like just sleeping i dont know what to do? and if i talk to him so whe can chat a bit at nite he says im pissing him og or irritates him. but i havent even done anything yet, and now he is saying that i dont want him to visit or see his friends but were almost never home every weekend we are out. we re together for 10years now,and yes we have a healthy you know what. so should i be stressed?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2009): did i mension they are about 30guys some single some married and some i dont trust at all. i do not know what to do....
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reader, jessbelle  +, writes (26 October 2009):
Actually, a bachelor weekend doesn't bother me, but the way you say he speaks to you and treats you does.
People treat us the way they do because we let them. Sounds simple, right? It's not. After ten years you have a routine and it seems to include him controlling you with his anger. It sounds a bit like he uses emotional blackmail to get you to just "shut up" and not bug him about the things he is doing that upset you. By the way, in my opinion, your upset is legitimate. Has it been like this for ten years?
Ignoring you when other women are around is not acceptable. It should be clear to everyone in the room that he is with you. I don't mean he has to hang on you or around you during a party, but he should be around you from time to time and it should look like you are a couple.
Hopefully your realtionship is respectful and loving or you wouldn't be marrying, right? If it is as you say it is, and I'm sorry to say this, I would not be getting married.
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reader, weparley +, writes (26 October 2009):
"Seriously"... You'll be back on here in 6 months telling us that you want OUT of this marriage.
Based upon what you wrote, the guy doesn't seem like marriage material @ ALL... "NOT IN MY OPINION" He just seems like a guy that will keeps secrets from you as long as he can get away with it.
Us guys, read off each other... and according to what I read, Marrying him is going to be a mistake and a burden
"Consider this a Prophecy"
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