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writes:I'm unsure about my sexuality. I'm an 18 year old guy, and have always been attracted to girls, I get turned on by girls, and date and have sex with girls. But here's the thing, having sex with another guy where I penetrate them, kiss them, or let them suck me off doesn't bother me at all. Receiving oral or penetrating someone or getting kissed, feels the same whether it's from a guy or a girl.Some people then say oh well you're bi then. But here's the thing, I'm not attracted to guys, I don't see a guy on a beach and think wow, I don't get turned on by looking at them and the idea of letting them penetrate me or me or me sucking them off really revolts me and I would never be able to go through with it.One friend suggested I was like one of those gay 4 pay pornstars, who are straight but can go through with some of the gay stuff, and have some things they just aren't willing to do.I just want to know, what the hell am I??? Bi, straight, something else???
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reader, BondGirl72  +, writes (12 September 2012):
 If you don't turned on by men and you aren't attracted to them, what would be the purpose of having sex with them? Is this just a philosophical discussion to amuse you?
I agree with Stacy. Answer her questions and we can go from there.
Many people DO fantasize about both sexes, but that doesn't mean they would do it in real life. There's a difference between fantasizing and actually doing it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your reply on my question.
Just to clear up the confusion. I don't mind a guy sucking me off, but I could never suck off another guy, the thought just revolts me.
I don't mind penetrating a guy, but would never allow a guy to penetrate me, the idea of it in there, again freaks me out
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reader, Stayc63088 +, writes (12 September 2012):
 I'm a little confused. You first say that letting a man penetrate you or suck you off doesn't bother you. Then you say in the next paragraph it's revolting and you wouldn't be able to go through with it. Have you ever done anything with a man before? Or is it when you think about it in your head it doesn't bother you but you have never actually been with a man sexually? It's one thing to think you would be fine with it, like I can think about sex with a woman and not be revolted. But when I think about actually doing it with a real woman I see I know I never could. You certainly don't sound bi to me by the paragraph where sex with a man is revolting and you aren't attracted to men, but the other paragraph is where I'm a little confused.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (12 September 2012):
 It sounds to me like you are just comfortable with your sexuality. Being affectionate towards males does not bother you, either would the idea of penetrating them, but when it comes to you having to be any more intimate than that it you couldn't do it. My guess is that there are just some things you find you would be able to do, it does not mean you want to do them or that the idea of them turn you on. I wouldn't worry about this at all. Everybody is different therefore don't label yourself to be anything. You are you and that is the end of it really. Everybody likes different things. So just go with the flow and do whatever you want to do or feel comfortable with.
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