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writes: Hiya,I am very upset because one of my closest friends has just split up a with a boyfriend that she has been going out with for a very long time. I knew she loved him very much, and he loved her.They had sex, and my friend's sex drive became uncontrollable, when she no longer had such a lust for sex with her ex, I knew something was up.A few days later they split because she cheated on him, but she felt so guilty that she told him what she had done. Now, whenever he sees her, he teases her and swears at her, and it makes her really sad. She cries all the time because she wants to go back out with him, but he has just no more interest in her.What advice can I give my heartbroken friend?(Dear Cupid: Please class this message as teenage)
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2010): i luks like he never really had much interest in her before!
all you can tell her is that he probably was not the right guy for her and life goes on so try ur hardest to get over him and move on to someone you respects you more
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reader, sarah_griffiths  +, writes (18 February 2009):
Well Your Friend Needs To Apoligize! And no it wont solve it completely but it will help in some way! Your friend needs to act liek she couldnt care less! Thats what i did! Now me and my ex are married! The Man Is Just Being Silly! Like a 5 year behaves in a toy store! Making her feel worse about the whole situation! Hes not worth the tears but if she loves him try my idea! (:
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reader, kt +, writes (20 January 2006):
 hi,
this must be hard for your friend. the only reason that her ex is swearing at her is because he was hurt too, and he is dealing with it though verbal violence. she should appollogise to him. this won't be easy and it might not even mend things totally. also tell your friend to move on. he might be enjoying the torture he is giving to your friend, so the sooner she stops caring for him the sooner he will stop the teasing and move on.
there are plenty more fish in the sea, but if your friend does really wan to go back out with him then let him cool off for a bit and start again with there relaitionship, starting with friendship! then maybe his feelings ill grow back.
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reader, purrfectionist84 +, writes (13 January 2006):
 Well, honestly, your friend can't expect her ex to treat her all that nicely or to want to go back out with her, considering that she cheated on him and violated his trust. If she "loved him very much," then why did she do it in the first place? Something was obviously lacking in the relationship in order for her to cheat, and you could try pointing that out and helping her to see that she is better off without him.
This too shall pass... Her ex is teasing and swearing now, but before she knows it, he'll be handling his anger in a more constructive fashion. They'll both move on and hopefully learn from their mistakes.
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